Quora精選：怎么知道一個(gè)人愛(ài)不愛(ài)你

Answered by Brinda Sarkar

Brinda Sarkar的回答：

My younger brother was an excellent cricket player and I... well not only was I lousy but I am also a girl. No other girls in the neighbourhood liked to play cricket and they were considered poor players too.

我的弟弟是一名優(yōu)秀的板球手，但是我……額……不僅球打得爛，還是個(gè)女孩子。附近的女孩都不喜歡玩板球，男孩們也認(rèn)為她們的板球技術(shù)很差。

Once all the boys would come to the park to play, the teams would get divided. Two captains would be chosen and they would one by one get to pick one player of their choice.

男生們每次去公園玩板球，都會(huì)兵分兩隊(duì)。首先選出兩名隊(duì)長(zhǎng)，然后由隊(duì)長(zhǎng)輪流挑選自己的隊(duì)員。

Now picking good players is the single most important factor to winning these games and given my poor skill set I should have been picked last of all. But whenever my brother became captain he would choose me before anyone else. Every time. Without worrying about winning or losing. All so I would not feel left out.

將優(yōu)秀的隊(duì)員納入球隊(duì)是贏得比賽最重要的一個(gè)因素，自知水平很差，我總覺(jué)得沒(méi)人會(huì)主動(dòng)選我。但事實(shí)是，只要我的弟弟當(dāng)隊(duì)長(zhǎng)，他總會(huì)第一個(gè)選我。每次都是這樣，絲毫不擔(dān)心會(huì)影響到輸贏 。這一切都是為了不讓我覺(jué)得被冷落。

He never said it but I know he loved me.

他從未說(shuō)出口，但我知道他愛(ài)我。

Answered by Rohit Nigam

Rohit Nigam的回答：

When I was about 10 years old, my father bought a number locking briefcase. I wanted to crack the number. It was easy, it was a combination of the numbers only, and I had plenty of time, so I started guessing from 000 to 999 (yeah!).

我十歲的時(shí)候，父親買(mǎi)了一個(gè)帶數(shù)字鎖的公文包。我想要破解他的密碼。這其實(shí)很簡(jiǎn)單，密碼不過(guò)是一串?dāng)?shù)字組合，我可是有大把的時(shí)間。于是，我打算從000一直試到999（噢耶~?。?。

Finally the briefcase opened at 081. I was like Yahoo!! ... and then moved on.

最終，在試到081的時(shí)候，公文包打開(kāi)了，我高興地歡呼起來(lái)！……回頭就把這件事拋在腦后了。

My father is a reserved man. He would never come and hug/kiss me, push me away with a smile when I kiss him, but would have that caring look for me in his eyes.

我的父親是一個(gè)內(nèi)斂的男人，他從不主動(dòng)擁抱我、親吻我。當(dāng)我親他的時(shí)候，他會(huì)笑著推開(kāi)我，可我總能從他的目光中看到對(duì)我的關(guān)愛(ài)。

I have an elder brother as well, born 1979.
I am born 1981.

我還有一個(gè)哥哥，1979年生。
而我出生在1981年。

81:-)

81 :-）

Answered by Nancy Clay

Nancy Clay的回答：

I took my 4 yo grandson to the park the other day. He was running, playing, happily meeting new friends. He suddenly stopped and was telling his new friend, "That's my grandma!" And proudly pointing me out as if I was something unusually special. He was proud of me! I am a very plain, ordinary person, but my grandson loves me so much that he believes I am special enough to show off to his new friends. I felt loved. Of course, in another 8 years, I'm sure I won't seem quite so special to my grandson, but I will enjoy being 'special' for the time being.

有一天，我?guī)е臍q大的孫子去公園。他不停地奔跑，玩耍，開(kāi)心地認(rèn)識(shí)新朋友。突然，他停了下來(lái)，告訴他的朋友：“這是我奶奶。”說(shuō)著還自豪地指著我，仿佛我時(shí)一個(gè)多么特別的大人物似的。他為我而感到驕傲！我只是一個(gè)普通人，但我的孫子卻這么愛(ài)我，認(rèn)為我非常特別，足以在新朋友面前炫耀一把。我感受到了被愛(ài)的幸福。當(dāng)然，再過(guò)個(gè)8年，等他長(zhǎng)大些，我在他眼里肯定不會(huì)還這么特殊、這么了不起，但這會(huì)兒，且讓我享受這番“特殊待遇”吧。

Answered by Priyank Chauhan

Priyank Chauhan的回答

Specific to India.
It is really uncomfortable for the parents to say "I love you".

在印度，父母?jìng)儾涣?xí)慣開(kāi)口說(shuō)“我愛(ài)你”。

So instead they say things like, "Thoda aur khao"(Eat some more), "Gaadi dheere chalaana"(Drive your car/bike slow), "Jaldi so jaana "(sleep early) etc.
What they mean is "I love you and I care about you".

相應(yīng)地，他們會(huì)說(shuō)“多吃點(diǎn)”、“慢點(diǎn)開(kāi)車(chē)”、“早點(diǎn)睡覺(jué)”等等，其實(shí)他們想表達(dá)的就是“我愛(ài)你，我關(guān)心你”。

Answered by Melissa Kwan

Melissa Kwan的回答：

When they are just happy you exist.

你的存在就是他們最大的幸福。