我們很多人都相信有孩子是幸福和完美家庭生活的關(guān)鍵。當(dāng)然,這種理想主義的形象對(duì)一些人來說是正確的,但研究人員說,實(shí)際上,孩子們在長大離開家后“飛巢”時(shí)最快樂。德國研究人員查看了一項(xiàng)對(duì)5.5萬名生活在歐洲的50歲以上人群的調(diào)查數(shù)據(jù)。調(diào)查對(duì)象被問及他們的情緒健康狀況。研究人員發(fā)現(xiàn),大多數(shù)父母在他們的孩子離開家,開始獨(dú)立生活后,對(duì)生活更加滿意。研究人員表示,這可能是因?yàn)閾狃B(yǎng)孩子會(huì)帶來財(cái)務(wù)上的擔(dān)憂、壓力、疲勞和焦慮。
The research was led by Christoph Becker at Heidelberg University. He concluded that a big reason for parents being happiest when their children leave home is that the tables are turned and the children provide more support to their parents. He said parents whose children no longer live with them suffer from fewer symptoms of depression and have a more positive outlook on life. Regarding the role reversal in providing support, Mr Becker said: "Children's roles as caregivers, providers of financial support or simply as a means of social contact might outweigh the negative aspects of parenthood." He added that maintaining family relationships may stave off loneliness in ageing parents.
這項(xiàng)研究由海德堡大學(xué)的Christoph Becker領(lǐng)導(dǎo)。他的結(jié)論是,當(dāng)孩子離開家時(shí),父母最開心的一個(gè)重要原因是形勢逆轉(zhuǎn)了,孩子們?yōu)楦改柑峁┝烁嗟闹С?。他說,孩子不和父母住在一起的父母患抑郁癥的癥狀更少,對(duì)生活的態(tài)度也更積極。在談到提供支持的角色轉(zhuǎn)變時(shí),貝克爾表示:“孩子作為照顧者、經(jīng)濟(jì)支持提供者或僅僅作為一種社交手段的角色,可能會(huì)超過為人父母的負(fù)面影響。”他補(bǔ)充說,維持家庭關(guān)系可能會(huì)延緩年邁父母的孤獨(dú)感。