Quora分享：11個(gè)技巧讓ta更愛(ài)你

tried-and-true tips.

Quora上一位網(wǎng)友提問(wèn)：愛(ài)情中最棒的技巧有哪些?網(wǎng)友們紛紛根據(jù)自己的經(jīng)歷給出了答案。

1. Keep a secret running list of stuff you partner wants to do or have.

1. 偷偷記下另一半想要的東西和想做的事情。

Then, on a special occasion or when you have the money, take that special weekend trip, buy that nifty thing.

然后在一個(gè)特別的時(shí)刻或是當(dāng)你攢夠錢(qián)以后，帶著TA去度假或是買(mǎi)下那個(gè)TA早就想要的小玩意兒。

2. After a fight go for walk and hold hands.

2. 吵架之后牽著手一起散步。

Conversations are easier to have when you’re side-by-side rather than facing one another. Plus, can you really stay mad at someone when their hand is in yours?

肩并肩的談話要比面對(duì)面容易得多。而且當(dāng)你握著對(duì)方的手時(shí)你怎么還會(huì)生TA的氣呢?

3. Use a silly codeword to ease tension during a fight or tough conversation.

3. 在吵架或爭(zhēng)執(zhí)時(shí)使用一些你們兩人才懂的暗語(yǔ)來(lái)緩解氣氛。

Make a deal that if one of you says your secret defusing code word, you’ll both stop arguing, hug, and find a solution. Chiminychonga!

你們可以約定好只要其中一人說(shuō)到你們的秘密暗語(yǔ)比如Chiminychonga什么的，你們就停止?fàn)幊常瑩肀РL試尋找更好的解決方法。

4. Date your longterm partner like you’re still in the honeymoon stage.

4. 跟已是老夫老妻的另一半來(lái)一場(chǎng)初戀般、蜜月期的約會(huì)。

Pretend that you’re new to each other that you still have to work hard at being an awesome partner (even though you’ve already landed them).

你們可以假裝剛剛認(rèn)識(shí)對(duì)方，所以得非常努力地博取對(duì)方的好感和認(rèn)可。

5. When you’re together, give them your full attention.

5. 兩人在一起的時(shí)候，要把全部注意力都放在對(duì)方身上。

Like don’t even scroll through your instas. Make your person feel heard by really listening.

比如不要不停地用手機(jī)刷instagrams，而要真正通過(guò)傾聽(tīng)來(lái)了解和關(guān)心對(duì)方。

6. Plan sponteneity.

6. 主動(dòng)計(jì)劃。

Schedule in days of doing fun stuff you wouldn’t normally do like building a blanket fort or having an indoor campfire or going on a tandem bike ride.

計(jì)劃做一些你們平時(shí)不常做的但有趣的事情，比如搭一個(gè)毯子堡壘、來(lái)一次室內(nèi)篝火晚會(huì)或是進(jìn)行一次雙人自行車(chē)騎行活動(dòng)等。

7. Say thank you constantly even for small stuff.

7. 即使是小事情也要常說(shuō)謝謝。

Look, even though they’re minor tasks, no one wants to replace the toilet paper roll or hang up your dumb shirts. Just let your partner know you appreciate their contribution to your little world.

雖然是一些很瑣碎很不值得一提的事情，但其實(shí)沒(méi)人愿意為你換廁紙、掛衣服等等。所以要讓你的另一半知道你感謝TA為你所做的每一件小事。

8. If you don’t really care about a thing, don’t argue about it.

8. 如果你真的不在意一件事情，就不要因此爭(zhēng)執(zhí)。

Let little stuff go and only make it a thing if it’s something truly important to you.

不要計(jì)較一些小事，除非這件事對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)真的相當(dāng)重要。

9. Give empowering gifts.

9. 為T(mén)A想做的事情創(chuàng)造條件。

If you partner has always wanted to learn tap dancing or go sky diving or travel solo but is too scared to take the leap or spend the money, show them your support and encouragement by gifting them the experiences they want.

如果你的另一半一直想學(xué)跳踢踏舞、想去跳傘或獨(dú)自旅游但又缺乏勇氣或是怕花錢(qián)的話，你就要表示出你的支持和鼓勵(lì)，為T(mén)A創(chuàng)造條件幫助TA完成自己的心愿。

10. Be the antidote to your partner’s hangups.

10. 為你的另一半排憂解難。

It feels damn validating when your partner goes out of their way to let you know they love the very thing about us we’re worried is weird or bad or flawed.

尤其是當(dāng)你的另一半想盡辦法方法讓你知道TA喜歡幫你分擔(dān)那些令你擔(dān)憂的事情時(shí)，你會(huì)更加確定這一點(diǎn)。

11. Give praise.

11. 不要吝嗇你的夸獎(jiǎng)。

Tell you’re partner how proud you are they got something done, took a step, faced a challenge, etc., no matter how small.

當(dāng)你的另一半成功完成某件事、取得某種進(jìn)步或面對(duì)某項(xiàng)挑戰(zhàn)時(shí)，要告訴TA你為T(mén)A驕傲。