生活百科提高交友能力的四個方法

 

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Step 1: Talk To Lots of People（踴躍發(fā)言）
Have you heard the old saying, "You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince?" Well, you have to talk to a lot of people to find a friend! Look at this as a numbers game: The more people you get to know on an "acquaintance" basis, the better chance you have of finding someone with whom you'll "click." Make small talk with the people you meet. If you are shy or just out of practice, this can seem excruciatingly difficult, so just break the ice by asking them questions like "Where do you live?" or "What do you do?". Compliment them, by saying "I like your shoes/top. Where is it from?". This is a conversation starter and everyone likes to be complimented!

Step 2: Join A Group（參加小組）
A great way to meet new people is to join a social group, like a book club, an exercise class, salsa or pottery - anywhere where you can meet people. Joining something like this not only means that you will automatically have something "in common" to talk about, but being around people in an organized setup also means that you will see these people regularly, and therefore will have a much better chance to get to know them.

Step 3: Spend Time Together（多花時間）
After you've identified some potential friends, it's time to make a small gesture. Send a birthday card. Invite her out to coffee. Don't be shy; you'll need to take this small risk to let them know you're interested. Activities such as shopping, going to the cinema and discussing the film afterwards, or reading the same books are helpful at this stage of a friendship because they allow you to discover each other's attitudes and find some common ground. Some friendships never move beyond this level, remaining casual, and others end at this stage. Others will grow and flourish and become solid, lifelong friendships.

Step 4: Make Friends Your Priority（朋友第一）
If having friends is important to you, you must make time for it in your busy schedule. Make friendship a priority in your life. Commit to making two phone calls a week, or extending one invitation a week, or whatever you need to get the results you want. Be consistent and don't give up. Remember to expect some rejection. Not everyone has room in their lives for new friends. That's not your fault. At the same time, be willing to take some risks in your quest for new friends. Tell yourself you've got nothing to lose, and the lifelong benefits of friendship to gain.

【詞匯講解】

1.excruciatingly adv. 極痛苦地，極其地

2.setup n. 裝備，組織，計劃

如：During setup, you have the option of saving your system files so that you can uninstall window95 later. 
在安裝過程中，會有保存系統(tǒng)文件的選項以便使你可以在以后卸掉Windows95。

Press the setup button to display the setup menu, and move the highlight down to audio. 
按Setup鍵顯示Setup菜單，然后移動亮條到Audio選項上。

3.consistent adj. 始終如一的，一致的，堅持的

如：I left as early as it was consistent with politeness. 
我在不失禮的情況下提前離去了。

The last five years have seen a consistent improvement in the country's economy. 
在最近的五年里，這個國家的經(jīng)濟狀況一直在好轉(zhuǎn)。

4.rejection n. 拒絕，被棄，被拋棄的實例

如：Her rejection dashed him. 
她的拒絕使他狼狽[難堪]。

Her rejection of him seems to have made him go back into his shell. 
他遭她拒絕後就更不愛吭聲了。

The rejection of their pay claim was given a less than rhapsodic reception by the miners. 
礦工要求提高工資遭到拒絕而甚為惱火。