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Holding a grudge holds you back. Without forgiveness, you can’t get on with your life. Learn how to forgive and forget and you’ll be a healthier, happier person.
You Will NeedAcceptance
Understanding
Focus
Stress management
Commitment
Step 1: Accept 接受
Accept the facts of your situation.
Be objective without pointing a finger or making yourself a victim.
Step 2: Understand 互相理解
Understand the reasons why the person hurt you. People are rarely malicious without reason. Most conflicts arise from misunderstanding.
Step 3: Look back 回顧自己的做法
Look back on a time when someone forgave you and remember how that made you feel. Understand that we all make mistakes.
Step 4: Focus on positives 朝向積極的方面
Focus on all that is positive in your life.
Step 5: Manage stress 巧妙釋放壓力
Manage your stress to help suppress anger and resentment.
Step 6: Commit to forgiving 承諾原諒傷害自己的人
Commit yourself to forgiving the person that caused you pain.
Step 7: Accept apology 接受道歉
Let them know that you accept their apology and be genuine in your forgiveness.
A decrease in heart rate, blood pressure, sweat levels, and facial tension occurred in people who imagined receiving an apology after feeling wronged.
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malicious
adj.1.惡意的, 惡毒的
Their talk was slightly malicious.
他們的談話有點(diǎn)兒心懷不軌。
suppress
vt.1.政府、統(tǒng)治者等 鎮(zhèn)壓;(武力)平定;壓制
The new government quickly suppressed the rebellion.
新政府迅速把叛亂鎮(zhèn)壓下去。
2.禁止發(fā)表, 查禁; 隱瞞
They suppressed news that was not favourable to them.
對他們不利的新聞他們就扣留下來。
He suppressed his name.
他隱瞞了他的姓名。
commit
vt.1.犯罪; 犯錯
He has committed a serious fault.
他犯了嚴(yán)重錯誤。
2.承諾; 使自己受約束
Asked if he was a candidate, he refused to commit himself.
當(dāng)問到他是不是候選人時, 他不置可否。
He has committed himself to support them.
他答應(yīng)負(fù)擔(dān)他們的生活。
3.把…托付給;托,委托;委任
The boy was committed to the care of his aunt.
這個孩子被交給他的姑媽照顧。