聰明女生15條戀愛守則

1. Their relationship will not take up 100% of their life, but they will put 100% into their relationship. It’s important to ambitious girls to have other priorities and things going on outside of their relationship. But that doesn’t mean they won’t give it their all when it comes to being happy with someone.

愛情不是她們生活的全部，但她們會(huì)在戀愛時(shí)全身心投入。對(duì)有追求的女生來說，除了愛情之外，她們還有許多重要的事情，但這不影響她們?cè)趹賽蹠r(shí)完全投入并享受這段美好時(shí)光。

2. They're not looking for a challenge, but they are looking for someone to challenge them. They’re not interested in the chase or winning the game. But they’re interested in being with someone who’s going to challenge them to be better and to grow every day.

她們要找的不是挑戰(zhàn)，而是可以激發(fā)其自我挑戰(zhàn)欲望的那個(gè)人。她們對(duì)戀愛中的追逐和輸贏并不感興趣。能夠激勵(lì)她們不斷改善自我、不斷成長，這才是她們要找的人。

3. Romance usually means something different to ambitious girls. They love dates and surprises just like the next girl. But in their minds, the most romantic thing in the world is being with someone who they can truly relate to, and someone who supports them in everything that they do.

有追求的女生對(duì)浪漫的定義通常不同。當(dāng)然她們也像所有女生一樣，喜歡約會(huì)和驚喜。但對(duì)她們來說，世界上最浪漫的事莫過于找到那個(gè)可以真正交心，并會(huì)事事都支持自己的人。

4. They're not afraid to tell you when they like you. If they think this thing has a chance, they’re not going to sit back and play coy and always wait for you to make the first move. They’re going to be straight-up with you, and you can do with that what you want.

若是來電，她們會(huì)大膽表白。如果覺得有可能，她們不會(huì)按兵不動(dòng)、羞羞答答，總是等著對(duì)方先開口。她們會(huì)主動(dòng)表白，并且坦然接受你的任何回應(yīng)。

5. They don't play games. There’s no “wait two hours to text back” guidelines that they believe they have to follow. Ambitious girls do what they want when they want, because they don’t have time for arbitrary dating rules.

她們不會(huì)?；ㄕ?。她們認(rèn)為根本不用遵守“收到消息兩小時(shí)再回復(fù)”之類的愛情指南。有追求的女生隨心而動(dòng)，她們認(rèn)為那些專橫的戀愛規(guī)則簡直是浪費(fèi)時(shí)間。

6. They'll still have a lot of other things going on besides you. They take dating seriously. But they’re also passionate about their careers and friends and family and hobbies. When they’re dating, ambitious girls are looking for someone who’s not only going to support that, but someone who’s going to love them all the more for it.

除了戀愛之外，她們還有很多事情要做。她們會(huì)真誠地戀愛，但對(duì)待事業(yè)，朋友，家人以及愛好也同樣熱情。對(duì)追求的女生來說，理想的另一半不僅會(huì)支持她有自己的生活，而且會(huì)因此更愛她。

7. They don't hold it against you if you’re not interested. They know what they want, and if you’re not interested, they’re just happy that you’re not wasting any more of their time.

若對(duì)方不感興趣，她們也不會(huì)由此心生怨念。因?yàn)樗齻兦宄约合胍氖鞘裁?，若?duì)方不感興趣，并且也沒耽誤她們的時(shí)間，她們只會(huì)高興。

8. They're not looking to be a trophy wife. The idea of playing backseat to their companion is nauseating to an ambitious girl. They’re looking for someone who is going to be their partner, not their leader.

她們不想做花瓶妻子。有追求的女生憎惡那些認(rèn)為妻子是丈夫附屬品的想法。她們要找的是與之并肩而行的人，而不是頤指氣使的人。

9. Ambitious girls know that being tough and being emotional aren’t mutually exclusive. Ambitious girls are strong, confident, and intelligent. They know how to handle themselves. But they’re aware that that doesn’t mean they can’t be vulnerable or emotional. One of the reasons they feel comfortable dating is because they know how to be tough without feeling the need to apologize for having emotions.

有追求的女生明白，堅(jiān)強(qiáng)和感性并不相互沖突。她們堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，自信且理智，知道如何處理好自己的事情。但是她們也清楚，這些不代表她們不能有脆弱和感性的一面。她們堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的同時(shí)，也不必為脆弱而受責(zé)備，這是她們舒適戀愛的原因之一。

10. A good conversation in their eyes doesn’t revolve around how much money you make or how successful you are. They're more interested in hearing what makes you tick, what inspires you, what gets your blood flowing, and what you're passionate about.

在她們看來，良好的交流不必圍繞著對(duì)方的金錢和成功。她們更在意對(duì)方的動(dòng)力，靈感，能量和熱情之所在。

11. They know that sometimes they have a hard time opening up in the beginning. They’re used to being in control, so when they’re not, it’s a little disorienting. But they enjoy the challenge of trying to get better, so it’s something they’re always keen to work on.

在開始一段感情時(shí)，有時(shí)她們會(huì)覺得難以敞開心扉。因?yàn)樗齻兞?xí)慣一切都在掌控之中，而愛情這件事卻充滿未知，所以她們會(huì)有些迷茫。但她們很享受自我完善的過程，并愿意為之全力以赴。

12. They won’t ask you to choose between them and your other priorities, because they’re too busy having priorities of their own.

她們不會(huì)逼你在愛情和其他重要事情之間做出選擇，畢竟她們有太多重要事情來充實(shí)自己。

13. Ambitious girls are attracted to people who have goals and aspirations – people who want more than an average existence. They don’t need you to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 or an insanely successful entrepreneur. They just want to know you care about something that matters and are willing to work for it.

有理想有抱負(fù)、不甘平庸的人會(huì)贏得這些女生的青睞。對(duì)方無需是財(cái)富500強(qiáng)公司的CEO，也不必是特別成功的企業(yè)家。她們只要了解，對(duì)方有自己在意的東西，并愿意為之奮斗就夠了。

14. They're not going to wait forever. They’ll let you know, one way or another, that they like you. They’re never in a rush to jump into a relationship, but they’re also practical about where they are in their lives and when it’s time to move on. If you like them, do something about it.

她們可不會(huì)一直傻等。若是動(dòng)心，她們一定會(huì)用某種方式表現(xiàn)出來。面對(duì)愛情，她們不會(huì)輕率莽撞就開始。同時(shí)，她們也很現(xiàn)實(shí)，知道自己處于人生的什么階段，知道什么時(shí)候該放手向前。所以若對(duì)她們有好感，請(qǐng)有所行動(dòng)。

15. They're less worried about a fairytale romance and more concerned with finding someone who will simply make them happy. They’re not preoccupied with a huge diamond ring, an over-the-top wedding, and a ridiculous love story they can tell their friends. They just want to be with someone who will love them for who they are, and never ask them to stop following their dreams. 相比童話般的浪漫舉動(dòng)，她們更在意簡單的快樂。她們并不癡迷于碩大的鉆戒、奢華的婚禮或是可以向朋友炫耀的瘋狂壯舉。她們只求相守的那個(gè)人愛的是她們真實(shí)的樣子，并永遠(yuǎn)支持她們的夢(mèng)想。

Vocabulary

trophy wife: 花瓶妻

nauseating: 令人惡心的

over-the-top: 過多的，言過其實(shí)的