你有沒有遇到過需要安慰別人的時(shí)候?
Every now and then we see people get emotional around us.
時(shí)不時(shí)地,我們身邊總會有人出現(xiàn)些情緒上的問題。
Sometimes they experience tragedy.
有時(shí)候是因?yàn)樗麄兘?jīng)歷了慘劇。
Sometimes they just find out that life doesn't go as they planned.
有時(shí)候,只是因?yàn)樗麄儼l(fā)現(xiàn)生活并沒有像他們計(jì)劃的那樣發(fā)展。
Either case, they feel sad and it seems natural for you to console them.
不過不管是哪種,他們心里都不好受,而你去安慰他們也顯得很自然。
But what would you say?
不過,你會說些什么呢?
Would you say "I understand you."?
會說:“我理解你。”?
In my experience most people would.
據(jù)我的觀察,大部分人都會這么說。
But don't. Someone with high EQ would never say that.
但是別。一個(gè)情商高的人是不會這么說的。
Because it doesn't console anyone. It only hurts and makes people angry.
因?yàn)檫@并不能安慰誰。這只會讓人更受傷,而且會激怒別人。
Everyone's life is unique. Everyone's experience is unique. Everyone's feeling is unique.
每個(gè)人的生活都是獨(dú)特的。每個(gè)人的體驗(yàn)都是獨(dú)特的。每個(gè)人的感受都是獨(dú)特的。
Don't assume that you know anyting about anyone.
別以為你能理解別人的事情。
'Cause you don't.
因?yàn)槟悴荒堋?/p>
Just like nobody really understands you. And you don't want people to tell you that they do.
就像你也知道沒有人真的理解你。而你也不希望有人告訴你他們理解你。