You should have it figured out by 35
People say you can change your career thirty,that's when you meant to be settling down.
人們說(shuō)你可以在你三十歲的時(shí)候改變你的職業(yè)生涯，那就是你打算安定下來(lái)的時(shí)候。
You can't change your career at 35, you should have had it figured out by then. oh my god you are not married at 38？what the hell are you doing with your life.
你不可能在35歲的時(shí)候改變你的職業(yè)生涯，你應(yīng)該意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)。天啊，你知道38歲還沒(méi)結(jié)婚嗎？你的生活到底在做什么？
Who Comes up with this stuff?I have no idea, This stuff plagues so many people, that I speak to.
誰(shuí)提出來(lái)這些觀點(diǎn)？我不知道， 同我交談的人中有很多人被這樣的事情折磨著。
So many people open up to me and say Jay I just don't know how to change ，is it possible？what do you think this guy was before he became who he is? he used to be a P.E. teacher. right? sports teacher .At a high school.
許多人敞開(kāi)心扉對(duì)我說(shuō)：Jay，我就是不知道該如何改變，我有可能改變嗎？你們覺(jué)得這個(gè)男人以前是做什么的？他是一名體育老師，一名高中的體育老師。
How about her? She was a telemarketer for two weeks.
她呢？她做過(guò)兩周的網(wǎng)上銷售工作。
how about her? She applied to be a funeral director.
她呢？（安吉麗娜朱莉）她曾經(jīng)想當(dāng)一名殯儀館館長(zhǎng)。
that's incredible.
真實(shí)難以置信。
What happens in society is that we`re clouded by the noise.
當(dāng)今社會(huì)，我們被噪音包圍著。
The noise of family expectations ,the noise of our parents ,the noise of our brothers and sisters expectations.
家人的期盼,父母的教誨，兄弟姐妹的影響。
I grew up in a family where you could either be a doctor ,a lawyer, or a failure. Right？
我長(zhǎng)大在一個(gè)家庭，在那里你樂(lè)意成為一個(gè)醫(yī)生，一個(gè)律師，或者一個(gè)失敗者。好吧。
Those were my three options. Anything else would just count me as failure . I would have failure ,so basically ,I failed . right， I'm standing up here in front of you all ,as a failure.
這就是我的三個(gè)選擇，做其他任何事情，都會(huì)被認(rèn)為是一個(gè)失敗者?；旧希乙泊_實(shí)失敗了，今天我站在你們所有人面前，也是以一個(gè)失敗者的身份。
I lived as a monk for three years. I committed career suicide .I turned down two amazing corporate job offers. when I graduated from business school. I shaved my hair, I wore robes ，and lived out of a gym locker for three years.
我當(dāng)過(guò)三年僧人，我放棄了事業(yè)，當(dāng)我從商學(xué)院畢業(yè)的時(shí)候，我拒接了兩家特別好的公司的工作邀請(qǐng)。我剃了頭發(fā)，穿上了長(zhǎng)袍，在外邊過(guò)了三年沒(méi)有健身的生活。
And I did that, because I thought I was going to do something meaningful , help impact the world. And it was one one of the best experiences of my life.
我當(dāng)初那么做，是因?yàn)槲蚁胱鲆恍┯幸饬x的事情，來(lái)幫助影響世界。那是我一生之中最美好的時(shí)光之一。
But more than becoming a monk, what that trained me to do was drop out with the rules.
但是比當(dāng)一個(gè)僧人更重要的是，它教會(huì)了我拋開(kāi)規(guī)則。
People told me ，if you come back in three years, you`ll never get a job, they told me, if you become a monk, People are going to thing you`re weird forever .No girl is ever going to talk to you!
人們告訴我，如果你三年后回來(lái)，你會(huì)找不到工作，他們還說(shuō)，如果你成了僧人，人們就永遠(yuǎn)覺(jué)得你怪怪的，就不會(huì)有女孩愿意和你說(shuō)話。
People told me, well, when you come back to real life. Like will you even be able to talk English? And people were just really weirded out.
人們告訴我，當(dāng)你回到現(xiàn)實(shí)生活當(dāng)中，比方說(shuō),你還會(huì)說(shuō)英語(yǔ)嗎?人們會(huì)感到納悶。
I`m just like, Okay I think monks speak English.
我說(shuō)，好吧，我覺(jué)的僧人就是說(shuō)英語(yǔ)的。
And there was so much different noises that I'm hearing when I made that decision.
我那時(shí)聽(tīng)到很多不同的聲音，當(dāng)我做出那個(gè)決定的時(shí)候。
And the funny thing is ，from having not been a monk for 4 years now, I am in one of the most incredible period of my life that I could ever have asked for.
有趣的是，還俗4年到現(xiàn)在，我處于人生曾經(jīng)最渴求的階段之一。
And so much of that is based on the fact what I decided to do something different. So many of the times are expectations are driving us in a certain scenario, we focus so much on life in what we want to be ，as opposed to who we want to be.
而這些都基于這樣一個(gè)事實(shí)，我要做與眾不同的事情。所以大多時(shí)候，期望在某種情況下驅(qū)動(dòng)著我們。我們專注于在生活中，我們想成為什么，而不是成為誰(shuí)。
Because we've always been told that, life and jobs and careers are like boxes and containers, There's only a finite number of options. There is no formula, There is no pattern.
因?yàn)槲覀兛偸潜桓嬷?，生活，工作，事業(yè)像盒子和箱子。只有一些有限的選擇。沒(méi)有公式，沒(méi)有模式。
If you know what you're passionate about ? if you know what you're good at? and you invest in that.
如果你知道哦自己的激情是什么？如果你知道自己擅長(zhǎng)什么？并投身其中。
People say ，follow your passions， I say ，forget that, invest your passions.
有人說(shuō)要追隨你的激情，我說(shuō)，忘掉這個(gè)，要投資你的激情，
If you're passionate about something, go and become the best at it, go and do a course on it, go and learn from the best. Go and find a mentor who is going to make you Incredible at that trait. Not only will you be criticized and grow, you will be able to find new things about yourself that you never knew.
如果你對(duì)某事有激情，那就變得精通干這件事，去學(xué)習(xí)相關(guān)的課程，從精英哪里學(xué)習(xí)，去尋找良師益友，他們會(huì)讓你擁有不可思議的特質(zhì)。你不僅會(huì)被批評(píng)，成長(zhǎng)，而且會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)自身新的特點(diǎn)。
Don't trade who you are for who you think the world needs, because world need you to be you, and I mean that.
不要讓自己成為你覺(jué)得世界需要的人，因?yàn)檫@個(gè)世界需要你做你自己，這就是我的意思。
