When my son was 14, he was friends with "Tim," aboy who drank and did drugs at a young age andwho once stole his father's car and took my sonjoyriding around the neighborhood. I didn't want ourson hanging out with Tim after that, but myhusband thought the boy should be forgiven andgave our son permission to keep seeing him.
當(dāng)我兒子14歲的時(shí)候,他和一個(gè)叫Tim的男孩成了朋友,那是個(gè)年紀(jì)輕輕就喝酒,吸毒的小子,曾經(jīng)偷他爸爸的車,帶我的兒子去附近兜風(fēng)。那件事發(fā)生以后,我就不想讓我的兒子和Tim在一起了,但是我丈夫認(rèn)為Tim應(yīng)該得到原諒,并向兒子承諾可以讓他繼續(xù)見(jiàn)Tim。
That was four years ago. Tim, now 17, continued breaking the law and is currently serving timein a juvenile facility for various felony convictions. He will be getting out in a couple of months. Ido not want him on my property or hanging out with my son (who does not use the bestjudgment when he is around Tim), but my husband still believes Tim should be forgiven.Please help.
那是4年前的事了,現(xiàn)在Tim已經(jīng)17歲了,他不斷犯法,因?yàn)榉赶赂鞣N重罪目前在少年監(jiān)獄關(guān)押。我不想讓他再帶著我兒子鬼混了,他和Tim在一起就不會(huì)正確判斷。但是我丈夫仍然相信可以原諒Tim。請(qǐng)幫幫我。
— Distraught and Worried
——煩惱又擔(dān)憂的一位母親
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Dear Distraught and Worried:
你好,煩惱又擔(dān)憂的母親
You can forgive Tim without letting him be an influence on your son. Inform your husband thatforgiveness doesn't mean disregarding another's safety. It means you let go of your angertoward the person.
如果Tim沒(méi)有給你兒子帶來(lái)壞的影響,你可以原諒他。告訴你的丈夫原諒并不意味著不顧別人的安全。那意味著將你的脾氣撒到別人身上。
It is important to discuss your concerns with your son. Calmly explain why you think spendingtime with Tim is not in his best interests. Tell him you have confidence in his maturity andtrust him. Beyond that, have faith that you have raised him right.
和你的兒子一起討論你的關(guān)心是很重要的。平靜地解釋為什么和Tim呆在一起并不是最好的。告訴你的兒子你相信他的成熟,并信任他。還有,你也相信自己正確地教導(dǎo)了他。
【生詞注釋】
joyriding n.開車兜風(fēng)
to hang out with 跟…在一起;與…為伍
permission n.允許;許可
to break the law 犯法
juvenile facility 少年輔導(dǎo)中心;少年監(jiān)獄
felony n.重罪
property n.所有物;不動(dòng)產(chǎn)
distraught adj.心煩意亂的;發(fā)狂的
to disregard v.不顧;忽視
maturity n.成熟;完成
distraught a.煩擾的