Quora精選：一輩子單身很難嗎？

Is it hard to live as a bachelor your whole life?一輩子單身很難嗎？

 

獲得10.7k好評(píng)的答案@Jay Bazzinotti：

Yes it is and sucks more and more as you get older. 很難，而且年紀(jì)越大，單身就越難。Speaking as a single, 54 year old man who has never been married I can tell you that being alone as you get older is a scary and unpleasant proposition. 作為一個(gè)從沒(méi)結(jié)過(guò)婚的54歲單身老男人來(lái)說(shuō)，我能告訴你，當(dāng)你老了還是一個(gè)人的話，這是一件既可怕又討厭的事。Now, it's relatively easy to find anyone to marry but it's not just as easy as grabbing the first available woman who will have you and tying the knot. 當(dāng)然，現(xiàn)在是很容易就可以找到人結(jié)婚，但是想要吸引一個(gè)愿意和你結(jié)婚的未婚女子卻沒(méi)有那么容易。As you get older you become more aware and sure of your values and what you want. 年紀(jì)越大，你對(duì)自己的價(jià)值觀和自己想要的東西就越了解。If you are not careful you become inflexible and unable to negotiate those values.如果你不注意這些，你就會(huì)成為一個(gè)老頑固，無(wú)法同那些價(jià)值觀妥協(xié)。I don't regret the good times I had or the adventures or the exciting romantic rendezvous but I think all those things pale in comparison to sharing consistent, cohesive moments with someone you build a future with and plan to grow old with, and do.我并不后悔在冒險(xiǎn)或令人興奮的浪漫約會(huì)上花費(fèi)的美好時(shí)光，但是我覺(jué)得，和找到一個(gè)共度一生的人分享持久而和諧團(tuán)聚的時(shí)刻相比，那些事顯得太過(guò)蒼白無(wú)力。In addition, the silence of being alone is deafening. 除此之外，獨(dú)自一人時(shí)的寂靜太過(guò)難受。You can fill your hours with activities, reading, volunteering and more but coming home to an empty house and wondering who will find you if you die alone in the middle of the night, and who will even care, is one of the most pathetic fears of an aging bachelor's life. 你可以用活動(dòng)、閱讀、當(dāng)志愿者和其它事情充實(shí)自己的生活，但是回家之后，面對(duì)著空無(wú)一人的屋子，你會(huì)想，如果你在深夜孤獨(dú)死去，有誰(shuí)會(huì)來(lái)找你、有誰(shuí)會(huì)在乎你？對(duì)于一個(gè)日漸老去的單身漢來(lái)說(shuō)，這是生活中最悲哀可怕的事情之一。I still live in hope that somewhere out there is the love of my life, waiting to be discovered somehow, but it's with increasing fear and doubt that that hope is threatened.我仍然抱有希望，我一生的真愛(ài)就在某地，正等著我以某種方式發(fā)現(xiàn)她，但是在逐漸加劇的恐懼和懷疑中，這希望漸漸消散。

 

獲得1.2k好評(píng)的答案@Anirudh Anupama：

Nope. I have an uncle who is 65 and has been divorced and single since past 35 years.不難。我有一個(gè)65歲的叔叔，他從離婚開始已經(jīng)單身35年了。He enjoys his life to the full extent. He has been an X- Ray technician in a cancer hospital for whole of his life and is working after retirement too.他完全是在享受生活。他一輩子都在一家腫瘤醫(yī)院做X光技術(shù)員，在退休以后也仍在工作。He earns decent amount to fund his regular visits to near by pilgrimage places.他的收入相當(dāng)充裕，足夠他定期去附近的朝圣地轉(zhuǎn)轉(zhuǎn)。I have asked him several times and discussed about his life as a single.我也問(wèn)了他幾次，和他討論了作為單身漢的生活。He has told me one thing which has motivated me the most, "If you can enjoy your own company, then you need no one else to entertain you all the time."他告訴我一件非常鼓舞我的事：“如果你能夠享受自己一個(gè)人的生活，那么你就沒(méi)必要讓另一個(gè)人來(lái)一直取悅你?！?p> 

獲得317好評(píng)的答案@Steven Clarke：

No. I'm 56 and have never been married. I have no children.  不難。我今年56歲，從沒(méi)結(jié)過(guò)婚，也沒(méi)有孩子。I've had my ups and downs, but so have my married friends.我經(jīng)歷了人生中的高低起伏，但是我那些已婚朋友們也同樣經(jīng)歷了那些。Being married doesn't guarantee happiness. Being single doesn't condemn one to misery. 結(jié)婚并不能保證幸福，單身也不意味著不幸。There are many paths through life, all are complicated and most have their share of joy and misery. 人生之路有很多條，每一天都很復(fù)雜，都有其快樂(lè)與不幸。Staring longingly at an idealized picture of someone else's path will only result in missing out on the joy and richness of experience on your own path.用渴望的目光看著別人那條理想化的路途，只會(huì)讓你錯(cuò)失了自己人生之路上的歡樂(lè)與豐富經(jīng)歷。

 

（翻譯：Shirley）

(來(lái)源:滬江)