Quora精選：20多歲了，你該學會什么？

Q: What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their twenties?

問：在20多歲應(yīng)該學會的東西中，你認為哪些最為吃力？

Answered by Arjuna Perkins

Arjuna Perkins的回復(fù)：

Here are some of the things my 20's have taught me.

以下是我20多歲時學會的一些東西：

1. Humility. This is the decade of failure. And that's ok - it's probably the first time in your life you've had to contend with most of the things you're taking on. Supporting yourself, managing your time / stress / relationships, figuring out what role you want work / study / spirituality / etc. to play in your life. Very few get through their 20's without some serious soul searching and questioning of fundamental beliefs and habits... And I don't envy those who do. This is the best time in your life to be making mistakes. It gets steadily less socially acceptable as you progress in age, so go crazy!

1.謙虛恭謹。這是充滿挫折的十年，不過不要緊，這可能是你人生中首次必須自己一人應(yīng)對大部分事情。你要養(yǎng)活自己，規(guī)劃好時間，平衡各種壓力，處理人際關(guān)系，還得弄清楚你希望工作、學業(yè)、精神信仰等等在你的人生中占有的份量。很少有人在其20多歲時未曾經(jīng)歷過深刻的自我反省，對自己的基本信仰與行為習慣產(chǎn)生質(zhì)疑……就算有這樣的人，我也不嫉妒他們。這是你人生中去犯錯的最佳時機。隨著年齡的增長，社會對你犯錯的包容度會越來越小。所以，盡情的去瘋吧！

2. Honesty. You don't get away with anything. Anything. If you're full of it, people will see that, no matter how vainly you struggle to hide it. The truth has a way of rearing its ugly head, so the sooner you can come to integrity with yourself and the world at large, the sooner you'll be able to get working towards what you really want, who you really want to be. That ugly person you may think you are inside is actually going to be the most compelling, most interesting, most powerful manifestation of yourself.

2.坦誠處世。你無法在任何事上蒙混過關(guān)。沒錯，任何事情！無論你多么枉費心機去掩飾，人們都會看出你表里不一的地方。而這樣的事情終會帶來不良的影響，所以你越早坦誠面對自己和整個世界，就能越早開始著手于你想要什么，以及你想成為什么樣的人。這樣你內(nèi)心一時所厭惡的這個你，卻將成為一個最叫人信服、最令人感興趣且最有力的你自己。

3. Health. You also don't get away with self-abuse. Just because you can stay up all night drinking doesn't mean it's not taking its toll on your body. You get a bit older, and you start to meet people in their 30s, 40s, 50s who kept up that lifestyle, and believe me, you don't want to be one of them. Have your fun, but remember: they call it excess for a reason. Eat well (whatever that means to you), get exercise, get enough sleep, and try to have a steady sex life if you possibly can.

3.保持健康。放縱終會帶來惡果。僅僅因為你有精力通宵不眠飲酒作樂，并不意味著這些沒有在侵害你的健康。當你再添幾歲，碰見30，40，50多的人仍繼續(xù)著這樣的生活，相信我，你不會想變的和他們一樣。你可以享受人生，但要記得：這些行為之所以會被冠以“過度”一詞，自然是有原因的。要健康飲食（無論它對你意味著什么），堅持鍛煉，保持充足睡眠和，如果可以的話，規(guī)律的性生活。

4. Having said that, pay close attention to who you find yourself attracted to. They will tell you more about yourself than almost anything else.

4.話又說回來，還要記得多注意哪些人吸引你，他們會讓你更加清晰地認識自己是什么樣子的。

5. Get used to being wrong. Conviction can be a symptom of narrow-mindedness. Chances are, whatever you believe now will be out the window at some point in your future, so get used to being open to other assessments of what's true. Chances are also that someone out there - maybe a lot of someones - knows a lot more about X, Y and Z than you do. Let go of having to be right about things - this isn't a contest. It's not a game. You don't win at life. So say, "Thanks for your perspective. I'll think about that." or "I was wrong. I'm sorry."

5.看淡錯誤。堅信與偏執(zhí)僅一線之隔。你現(xiàn)在深信不疑的事情很有可能會在將來的某一刻突然崩坍，所以要開始習慣聽取別人的正誤觀。也有可能有人，可能有很多人，在許多方面了解的都比你多。不必執(zhí)著于對錯，因為這不是一場比賽，不是一場游戲。生活里沒有贏家。所以遇到別人的質(zhì)疑，你應(yīng)該說：“感謝你的建議，我會仔細考慮一下。”或者“對不起，是我錯了?！?/p>

6. Perseverance. You will fail in life, over and over and over. It won't feel fair. Maybe for decades. You've got to keep moving forward. Keep going. Keep going!

6.堅持不懈。生命之中，可能數(shù)十年都會挫折不斷。這讓你感覺不公，但你必須一直向前看。堅持不懈，永不言棄！

Oh, and don't forget to have fun along the way! Enjoy any moment you possibly can.

對了，不要忘記且行且開心！盡可能去享受每一刻。