你需要變強(qiáng)大：關(guān)于生活的14個(gè)事實(shí)

“We spend much of our lives going about completely blind to reality, and yet we still have the gall to act victimized when it invariably catches up to us。” – Nenia Campbell

“我們完全不顧生活現(xiàn)實(shí)白白浪費(fèi)了很多生命時(shí)光，既然避免不了要面對現(xiàn)實(shí)生活，那么我們?nèi)砸心懥縼砻鎸Α?rdquo;——作家奈尼爾-坎貝爾

1. You cannot always rely on friends

你不可能一直靠朋友幫忙

You will need certain life skills when nobody else is around. In this way you can rely on yourself to get out of trouble. It is a sad fact of life that we cannot count on other people most of the time. Make sure you have the following skills:

在你周圍沒人可以依靠的日子里，那就需要你掌握一定的生活技能，這樣你可以靠自己走出困境。大部分時(shí)間我們無法指望別人，這個(gè)悲哀的生活事實(shí)是我們要面對的。你要保證自己掌握以下技能：

You can cook

會(huì)做飯

You can drive

會(huì)開車

You know about the power switches in your home

知道你家里電源開關(guān)的位置

You have a spare set of keys in a secret place for when you get locked out

有一套備用鑰匙放在隱秘地方以備自己鎖在外面時(shí)用

You can manage your time

自己把握好時(shí)間

You learn something new about information technology every day to become computerate。

每天學(xué)習(xí)一些新的信息技術(shù)豐富自己的電腦知識(shí)

2. Make time for your passion

找時(shí)間去做自己愛做的事情

Whatever you love doing, make sure you do it at a set time. This is important because you find that friends, family, your boss, and your pet will be constantly yapping at your heels trying to steal your time. You have to build in the following defense mechanisms to stop people making unreasonable demands at the wrong moment:

無論你喜歡做什么，都要保證你在自己設(shè)定的時(shí)間內(nèi)做完。這一點(diǎn)很重要，因?yàn)槟銜?huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你的朋友、你的家庭、你的老板、跟在你身后朝你叫個(gè)不停的寵物都在竊取著你的寶貴時(shí)間。你必須建立以下防御機(jī)制來阻止人們在錯(cuò)誤的時(shí)刻做出不合理的要求：

Switch off your phone

關(guān)掉電話

Turn off the computer

關(guān)掉電腦

Go out and do it or lock yourself in

出門去做，或是把自己關(guān)在家里

Leave Post-its to remind these intruders. (Yes, I know your pet can’t read but the others can!)

記在便利貼上提醒那些干擾你的人(是，我知道你的寵物看不懂但別人能看懂!)

3. You accept challenges

你要接受挑戰(zhàn)

In order to grow in being sociable, stronger both physically and mentally, you have to accept challenges on a regular basis. You are pushing yourself to get better and stronger。

為了增強(qiáng)社交能力，身心都要鍛煉得更加堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，你要定期接受挑戰(zhàn)。你把自己變得更優(yōu)秀更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。

4. You like being alone but you are not a loner

你喜歡獨(dú)自一人，但你不是一個(gè)孤獨(dú)的人

“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company。” – Jean-Paul Sartre

“如果你獨(dú)自一人時(shí)感到孤獨(dú)，就說明你沒有把自己陪好。”——約翰-保羅薩特

It is impossible to exist without social contact. You can be as strong and self-sufficient as you like, but at the end of the day you need to interact in a real, personal and meaningful way, which is neither Facebook nor Twitter. You need to be in contact with real people for this。

不可能不與社會(huì)接觸。你可以讓自己變得像你想象的那樣堅(jiān)強(qiáng)和自信，結(jié)束一天的工作，但在工作之余你需要與現(xiàn)實(shí)生活中的個(gè)人進(jìn)行這有意義的互動(dòng)，不要生活在臉書和推特的虛擬世界中。你要與真實(shí)的人接觸交流。

At the same time, you can enjoy quiet time alone and you are comfortable with that. The health benefits range from increased creativity, less depression and improved memory。

同時(shí)，你可以享受安靜的獨(dú)處時(shí)光，會(huì)讓你很舒服。對健康也有增加創(chuàng)造力、減少抑郁、改善記憶的益處。

5. Lower your expectations

降低你的期望值

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine。” – Bruce Lee

“我活著不是為了滿足你的期望，就像你也不是因?yàn)槲业钠谕钪粯印?rdquo;——李小龍

Don’t think that people will always be there when you fall or fail. The phone will go silent. Many friends will suddenly be very busy with their own problems。

在你人生不得意或失意之時(shí)，不要認(rèn)為總有人會(huì)圍著你轉(zhuǎn)。你的電話不再響起，你曾經(jīng)的很多朋友很突然地都在各忙各的。

6. Prepare for bad times

為不得意的日子做好準(zhǔn)備

Stuff happens and it can get nasty! You will have to learn to be stronger and not give up. But the good news is that adversity and suffering will make you appreciate life afterwards. Those who endured hardships, like being homeless, divorced or ill, found that they been able to develop better coping strategies and were more socially active。

不得意的人生遭遇的確令人不悅，你要學(xué)會(huì)堅(jiān)強(qiáng)不放棄。但好在遭遇逆境和磨難之后，會(huì)讓你對生活滿懷感激之情。像無家可歸的人、離婚的人或生病的人，這些歷經(jīng)艱難困苦的人能夠找出更好的應(yīng)對策略并積極參與社交活動(dòng)。

“Hope for the best and cope with the rest。” – Anon “

滿懷最美好的希望，謀事在人成事在天。” ——無名氏

7. You cannot be popular with everybody

你無法取悅每個(gè)人

It’s just chemistry. There are people who will rub you up the wrong way, will be bitchy, and will be downright unhelpful in the workplace. You can adopt a few avoidance strategies to reduce the fallout. Get over it and enjoy the company of the real friends you have。

只不過是個(gè)化學(xué)反應(yīng)而已。在職場上有些人會(huì)惹惱你，有些人會(huì)讓你抓狂，有些人對你絲毫起不到幫助作用。你可以采取一些規(guī)避策略以減少對你的影響?？朔切┎焕绊懴硎苣愕暮门笥雅惆橹愕拿篮脮r(shí)光。

8. You learn from failure

你要從失敗中學(xué)習(xí)經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)

Everybody screws up. You know that perfection is impossible. Every time you have a disaster, do not beat yourself up. Just ask yourself how you could have avoided the trap or planned it better. In this way you can learn a few life lessons from failure。

每個(gè)人都有搞砸的時(shí)候，人生不可能始終完美無缺。每次遭遇災(zāi)難你不要責(zé)怪自己，自己想辦法如何避免落入陷阱或做個(gè)比較好的計(jì)劃。這樣你可以從失敗中學(xué)習(xí)一些人生的經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)。

9. Nobody else will praise you

沒有人會(huì)表揚(yáng)你

Time to give yourself a pat on the back for all your achievements. Don’t be afraid to list them in your head when you get discouraged. Give yourself a score for each finished task. This keeps you strong when facing life’s harsh realities。

對于你自己取得的成就，要自己表揚(yáng)一下自己。氣餒時(shí)不要害怕不要心慌，每完成一個(gè)任務(wù)要給自己打個(gè)分?jǐn)?shù)，這會(huì)讓你堅(jiān)強(qiáng)地面對殘酷的現(xiàn)實(shí)生活。

10. Toxic company is bad for you

消極的朋友對你沒好處

You know the people I mean. These are the whiners, the pessimists, the miserable ones, the cheap ones, the nasty types, and the prejudiced. They make a lousy team. Try to gravitate towards the optimistic and passionate people who will help you see the brighter side of life。

你知道我所指的這類人：牢騷滿腹者、悲觀主義者、悲慘可憐者、小氣不大度的人、脾氣不好的人、有偏見的人，這類人會(huì)讓整個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)都變得糟糕不堪。盡量和樂觀充滿激情的人相處，有助于你看到生活光明的一面。

11. Money is tight

資金很緊張

Nobody wants to be stalked by debt or creditors. You have to work out how best to stay within your budget. Think of ways to save, like having packed lunches. Never go shopping without a list. Avoid impulsive buys. Use cash as much as you can. Leave the credit cards at home as they tend to lull you into a fantasy world。

沒人愿意債務(wù)纏身或成為欠債的人，生活開支費(fèi)用最好不要超出預(yù)算。想辦法節(jié)省一下預(yù)算，像午飯吃便當(dāng);去購物時(shí)拉一個(gè)清單，避免沖動(dòng)購物;盡量用現(xiàn)金消費(fèi)，把信用卡放在家里，因?yàn)樾庞每ㄏM(fèi)起來沒有概念。

12. Invest in kindness

善心投資

Doing acts of kindness every day to people at work or those in difficulty will pay handsome dividends. People will return the kindness. Investing in kindness is like having savings in the bank. They will always earn a little interest. What goes around comes around. There is also an added bonus in that it makes you feel good for a while。

每天為同事或者有困難的人慷慨解囊做些善事，人們會(huì)回報(bào)你的善舉。投資善事就像在銀行里存錢，總會(huì)賺取些許利潤回報(bào)，善有善報(bào)。另外還有一個(gè)好處，做善事會(huì)讓你很長一段時(shí)間都感覺良好。

13. Be accountable for your behavior

你要對自己的行為負(fù)責(zé)

If you behave badly, rudely or take unnecessary risks, then you have to be totally accountable for what you have done. You have to take the responsibility for your behavior. Another harsh lesson from the life arena! Taking the consequences, not blaming others and apologizing for harm done have to be on your to do list。

如果你的表現(xiàn)不好、粗魯或冒險(xiǎn)，那么你就得對你的所作所為完全負(fù)責(zé)。你要為你的行為負(fù)責(zé)。從人生大舞臺(tái)上學(xué)到另外一個(gè)嚴(yán)酷的現(xiàn)實(shí)教訓(xùn)!承擔(dān)后果不是責(zé)備他人，自己要對傷害性的所作所為道歉。

14. Look forward

要向前看

There is no escape. Life is wonderful but it is really hard work. Now is the time to start afresh。

不要逃避現(xiàn)實(shí)。生活很美好但也很艱難，從現(xiàn)在開始重新生活。

“All the world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming。” – Helen Keller

“盡管世界充滿了磨難，但戰(zhàn)勝磨難的例子也比比皆是。”——海倫-凱勒