在商業(yè)心理學(xué)中,高度的自信是事業(yè)成功的關(guān)鍵,這是老生常談的問題了。是時(shí)候打破這個(gè)神話了。事實(shí)上,缺乏自信似乎更容易讓你取得成功。當(dāng)然,極度缺乏自信也是不行的:因?yàn)榭謶帧?dān)憂和壓力會(huì)限制你的表現(xiàn),最終,驅(qū)使人們放棄。但是,適當(dāng)?shù)娜狈ψ孕艜?huì)幫助你重新確定自己的目標(biāo),使其更加現(xiàn)實(shí),更容易完成。
If your confidence is low, rather than extremely low, you stand a better chance of succeeding than if you have high self-confidence. There are three main reasons for this:
如果你缺乏自信,而不是極度缺乏自信,那么,比起那些自信滿滿的人,你將擁有更多取得成功的機(jī)會(huì)。下面就是支持這一論點(diǎn)的三個(gè)主要的原因:
1.Lower self-confidence makes you pay attention to negative feedback and be self-critical:Most people get trapped in their optimistic biases, so they tend to listen to positive feedback and ignore negative feedback. Although this may help them come across as confidence to others, in any area of competence (e.g., education, business, sports or performing arts) achievement is 10% performance and 90% preparation. Thus, the more aware you are of your soft spots and weaknesses, the better prepared you will be. Indeed, success is the best medicine for your insecurities.
1.缺乏自信會(huì)讓你注意到負(fù)面的反饋,進(jìn)行自我批評(píng)。大多數(shù)人深陷自我積極態(tài)度的偏見之中,因此,他們更愿意聽到積極的反饋從而忽略了負(fù)面的回應(yīng)。雖然在所有的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)領(lǐng)域,例如,教育、商業(yè)、運(yùn)動(dòng)或者表演行業(yè),相較他人,高度的自信會(huì)幫助他們?nèi)〉贸晒?,但是成功?0%的表現(xiàn)加上90%的準(zhǔn)備。因此,更好地了解自己的弱點(diǎn)和不足,準(zhǔn)備也會(huì)越充分。沒錯(cuò),成功是治愈安全感匱乏的一劑良藥。
2.Lower self-confidence can motivate you to work harder and prepare more:If you are serious about your goals, you will have more incentive to work hard when you lack confidence in your abilities. In fact, low confidence is only demotivating when you are not serious about your goals. If you really want what you say you want, then, your low confidence will only make you work harder to achieve it — because it will indicate a discrepancy between your desired goal and your current state.
2.缺乏自信會(huì)督促你更加努力地工作,做更多的準(zhǔn)備。如果你對(duì)自己的目標(biāo)很認(rèn)真,在你對(duì)自己能力缺乏自信的情況下,你往往會(huì)更有動(dòng)力去努力工作。事實(shí)上,只有你對(duì)自己的目標(biāo)不認(rèn)真的時(shí)候,缺乏自信才會(huì)產(chǎn)生消極的作用。如果真的想得到你說你想得到的東西,那么,你的不自信反而會(huì)讓你更加努力地工作去得到它——因?yàn)椴蛔孕艜?huì)讓你意識(shí)到你渴望的目標(biāo)和你現(xiàn)在的狀態(tài)之間的差距。
3.Lower self-confidence reduces the chances of coming across as arrogant or being deluded: Indeed, people with low self-confidence are more likely to admit their mistakes - instead of blaming others - and rarely take credit for others' accomplishments. This is the most important benefit of low self-confidence because it points to the fact that low self-confidence can bring success, not just to individuals but also to organizations and society.
3.缺乏自信降低了自大和失望的可能性。確實(shí),缺乏自信的人更容易承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤,而不是抱怨他人,而且他們很少把別人的贊揚(yáng)太當(dāng)回事兒。這是缺乏自信最大的好處了,因?yàn)樗嬖V了我們一個(gè)事實(shí):缺乏自信會(huì)帶來成功,不僅僅是對(duì)個(gè)人而言,對(duì)于公司和社會(huì)也同樣適用。
In brief, if you are serious about your goals, low self-confidence can be your biggest ally to accomplish them.
總之一句話,如果你對(duì)自己的目標(biāo)很認(rèn)真,缺乏自信會(huì)成為你實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)的最有力的盟友。