213.懂得如何反駁
懂得如何反駁。這是查明事情真相的主要方法--讓別人尷尬,自己卻不尷尬。這就像夾人手指一樣,可刺激別人沖動,然后獲知真相。你的些許懷疑,可作為他人吐露秘密的催化劑。這是一把鑰匙,能打開他人緊鎖的心。如果方法巧妙,能窺視到他的想法,考驗他的意志。對別人神秘的話語狡猾地表現(xiàn)出不屑,可以掏出他隱藏最深的秘密;用甜美的誘餌把別人的秘密從心中引至嘴里,滑落舌尖,掉進你精心編織的欺騙之網里。你不表現(xiàn)得那么關心,別人就不會那么在意,從而能夠吐露真言,不然,其內心就會深藏不露。假裝有所懷疑是最靈巧的撬鎖工具,能讓你如愿以償。在知識學習上,學生反駁老師也是精明的策略,這樣老師就會盡力把道理講得更透徹、更具說服力,因此適當?shù)姆瘩g可使教學更加完善。
213.Know how to contradict
Know how to contradict. A chief means of finding things out-to embarrass others without being embarrassed. The true thumbscrew, it brings the passions into play. Tepid incredulity acts as an emetic on secrets. It is the key to a locked-up breast, and with great subtlety makes a double trial of both mind and will. A sly depreciation of another's mysterious word scents out the profoundest secrets; some sweet bait brings them into the mouth till they fall from the tongue and are caught in the net of astute deceit. By reserving your attention the other becomes less attentive, and lets his thoughts appear while otherwise his heart were inscrutable. An affected doubt is the subtlest picklock that curiosity can use to find out what it wants to know. Also in learning it is a subtle plan of the pupil to contradict the master, who thereupon takes pains to explain the truth more thoroughly and with more force, so that a moderate contradiction produces complete instruction.