如何與他人相處

1. Keep skid chains on your tongue; always say less than you think. Cultivate a low, persuasive voice. How you say it counts more than what you say.

2. Make promises sparingly, and keep them faithfully, no matter what it costs.

3. Never let an opportunity pass to say a kind and encouraging word to or about somebody. Praise good work, regardless of who did it. If criticism is needed, criticize helpfully, never spitefully.

4. Be interested in others, their pursuits, their work, their homes and families. Make merry with those who rejoice; with those who weep, mourn. Let everyone you meet, however humble, feel that you regard him as a person of importance.

5. Be cheerful. Don’t burden or depress those around you by dwelling on your minor aches and pains and small disappointments. Remember, everyone is carrying some kind of a load.

6. Keep an open mind. Discuss but don’t argue. It is a mark of a superior mind to be able to disagree without being disagreeable.

7. Let your virtues speak for themselves. Refuse to talk of another’s vices. Discourage gossip. It is a waste of valuable time and can be extremely destructive.

8. Be careful of other’s feelings. Wit and humor at the other person’s expense are rarely worth it and may hurt when least expected.

9. Pay no attention to ill-natured remarks about you. Remember, the person who carried the message may not be the most accurate reporter in the world. Simply live so that nobody will believe them. Disordered nerves and bad digestion are a common cause of backbiting.

10. Don’t be too anxious about the credit due you. Do your best, and be patient. Forget about yourself, and let others “remember.” Success is much sweeter that way.

1.惜言如金。說(shuō)的永遠(yuǎn)比想的少。養(yǎng)成低聲說(shuō)話，說(shuō)有力量的話的習(xí)慣。怎么說(shuō)比說(shuō)什么更重要。

2.慎做許諾。無(wú)論代價(jià)如何，誠(chéng)心誠(chéng)意信守諾言。

3.永遠(yuǎn)不要錯(cuò)失機(jī)會(huì)向某人說(shuō)飽含善意和激勵(lì)的話。贊美做得好的工作，不管那是誰(shuí)做的。如果需要批評(píng)，就做有益的批評(píng)，絕不要懷有惡意。

4.關(guān)心他人，關(guān)心他們的追求，他們的工作，他們的家和家人。和那些快樂(lè)的人、哭泣和哀傷的人一起營(yíng)造快樂(lè)。讓你遇見(jiàn)的每個(gè)人，無(wú)論他多么卑微，都能感受到你對(duì)他的重視。

5.要令人感到愉快。不要老是述說(shuō)你微不足道的周身疼痛和失望沮喪，給你周圍的人增加壓力和苦惱。記住，每個(gè)人都擔(dān)負(fù)了某種負(fù)擔(dān)。

6.虛心接受他人意見(jiàn)?？梢杂懻摚灰獱?zhēng)論。能友善地表示不同意見(jiàn)是有心胸開(kāi)闊的標(biāo)志。

7.讓優(yōu)點(diǎn)自己表現(xiàn)出來(lái)。拒絕談?wù)撍说娜毕?。勸阻流言蜚語(yǔ)。那是寶貴時(shí)間的浪費(fèi)，破壞性可能極強(qiáng)。

8.照顧他人的感受。以損害他人為代價(jià)的風(fēng)趣和幽默很不值得，可能會(huì)在不經(jīng)意間傷害他人。

9.不要太在意那些對(duì)你的流言蜚語(yǔ)。記住，傳播信息的人可能不是世界上最實(shí)事求是的記者。隨它去吧，不會(huì)有人相信的。神經(jīng)過(guò)敏和承受力差是產(chǎn)生流言蜚語(yǔ)的常見(jiàn)原因。

10.不要急于求得信任。盡最大努力，耐心等待。忘記你自己，讓別人“記住”。這樣獲得的成功才愉悅。