晨讀英語美文100篇六級The Reasons We Fight over Finance

[ti:] [ar:] [al:] [by:] [00:02.43]Passage 56. The Reasons We Fight over Finance [00:10.31]When I started doing research for this column, [00:12.72]asking what sorts of money fights people have, every single couple said the same thing: [00:18.62]“Well, we don’t really fight about money.” [00:21.79]Right, right,right, I’d have to say,backing away from the flame of lies. [00:26.83]“But we all have the occasional childish squabble, right?” [00:31.43]Even then people were hesitant.“Well... maybe,” they’d say. [00:37.55]One woman described how her husband took away her credit card one day. [00:42.69]Not that they fought about it. [00:46.08]Or take another couple I know. [00:48.05]I was at their house recently when the husband came home from work with a new drum set. [00:52.31]He hadn’t planed to drop 500 dollars on drums that day, he explained, [00:57.78]as he unloaded the car, he just saw a classified ad and thought,why not? [01:03.47]Although his wife appeared calm while I was there, [01:06.86]she told me later that they had a long “discussion” about the fact [01:12.01]that they had agreed to save money to buy a house [01:14.52]—never mind their long-planned trip to Europe this summer— [01:17.80]and why did he have to buy a drum set NOW? [01:21.42]What we have here is a failure to communicate. [01:25.90]“It’s a fairly common fight, [01:28.86]and it usually happens because the two people involved aren’t on the same page,” [01:33.34]says Barbara Steinmetz, a financial planner in Burlingame, Calif. [01:38.05]“One person thinks they have a shared goal of saving for a house, car or retirement, and the other doesn’t.” [01:45.38]In fact, most fights occur not because of the amount of money spent [01:49.97]but because of unspoken expectations that couples have [01:54.02]and are often afraid to talk about. [01:56.54]Sometimes it’s clashing styles, sometimes mismatched agendas, [02:01.79]but people get so rooted in their own money views [02:04.85]that they can’t see that their partner simply has a different perspective. [02:09.33]Steinmetz described one couple she advised who had this blind spot. [02:14.59]The husband first outlined his goals for investing, retirement savings, etc. [02:19.95]Steinmetz then asked the wife about her goals. [02:23.66]“The husband was shocked to find out his wife had goals [02:27.28]—and they were different from his!” she says.

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