戀愛(ài)物語(yǔ)錯(cuò)在對(duì)方，如何道歉？

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You may be right, but are you happy? Decide whether winning is more important to you than getting along.

You Will NeedResponsibility
Respect
Kindness

Step 1: Find out what it was   尋找根源
Find out what the offense was before apologizing, or risk making things worse by coming off as patronizing. Be willing to act responsibly and make peace.

Step 2: Avoid blaming   避免責(zé)備 ，抱怨
Take responsibility. Avoid qualifying reservations for the apology, which usually begin with “but” and end with a transfer of blame.

Step 3: Express regret     表達(dá)歉意
Express regret with genuine shame and offer to change. Relationships rely upon honorable behavior, and nonverbal cues that imply it’s the other person’s fault undermine peace.

Step 4: Face them    敢于面對(duì)實(shí)事，注意道歉的方式
Face each other when apologizing instead of doing it over the phone, or in an e-mail or text. Show some class and respect their feelings.

Any resistance to apologize shouldn’t come from a misguided need to control the partner or to avoid losing ground. Heal the conflict instead of prolonging it.

Step 5: Listen to them    仔細(xì)傾聽(tīng)
Let the other person speak and hear them out, in case their viewpoint has been completely misunderstood. Assure them that no disagreement can change the security of the relationship.

If you can’t bring yourself to admit you’re wrong, try to agree to disagree.

Step 6: Soothe the situation   使情況緩和
Soothe the situation with an activity to leave the disagreement behind. Buy them flowers or a small trinket as a peace offering, and move on.

In the 1970 film Love Story, the protagonist concludes with the famous line: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”
[重點(diǎn)講解]

patronizing

     adj.
    1. 儼然以恩人態(tài)度的,要人領(lǐng)情的

reservation

     n.
   1. 保留的座位[住處]等; 預(yù)訂
   2. 保留意見(jiàn); 保留態(tài)度

viewpoint

   n.
  1.觀點(diǎn), 意見(jiàn), 角度
    He explained his viewpoint that taxes should be increased.
    他解釋了他認(rèn)為應(yīng)該增加稅收的觀點(diǎn)。
    He explained his viewpoint in detail.
    他詳細(xì)地解釋了他的觀點(diǎn)。

Soothe

  vt.
 1.安慰, 撫慰, 使舒服, 使平靜
   I've managed to soothe him down a bit.
   我想方設(shè)法使他平靜了一點(diǎn)。
 2.減輕痛苦
   This medicine should soothe your sore throat.
   這種藥會(huì)減輕你的喉痛。