禮節(jié)美語(yǔ)The Eyes Have It

A：We send nonverbal messages with our arms, our legs, our posture, our gestures and most often with our eyes.

C：你是說(shuō)能從我眼睛里能看出我的想法嗎？

A：沒(méi)錯(cuò)。比方說(shuō)，今天開(kāi)會(huì)時(shí)，your eyes said more than your words or your facial expression. Todd 介紹提案時(shí)，我能看出你不同意他的意見(jiàn)。

C：奧， 你從我眼睛就能看出來(lái)？我真的是有異議?？赡憧闯鰜?lái)的？我可是一字都沒(méi)說(shuō)呀。

A: You didn't have to. You rolled your eyes.

C: 我翻眼睛了嗎？我怎么一點(diǎn)兒都沒(méi)覺(jué)得。

A：你是下意識(shí)的。You were not aware, but several people at the meeting noticed.

C：那就是說(shuō)雖然我嘴上沒(méi)表示反對(duì)，其它人還是能夠看出來(lái)。Was there anything else that I did with my eyes?

A：Unfortunately, yes. You looked away several times while Todd was speaking.

C：這有什么不好嗎？他說(shuō)的我都聽(tīng)過(guò)好幾遍了。

A：沒(méi)錯(cuò)。By not looking at Todd, you gave the impression that you had heard it all before and were not the least bit interested in hearing more.

C：這我可沒(méi)想到。我一直在努力管住自己的嘴巴，不要亂講話。

A：Well, your eyes did that for you.

C： Amy, 你還從我的眼神兒里看出什么了？

A：When you lost complete interest in what Todd was saying, you just stared at him blankly. It was that old "deer in the headlights" look.

C：“車(chē)前燈里的鹿”是什么意思??？

A：For the deer facing the headlights of an oncoming car, its expression is one of looking, but not seeing.

C：你是說(shuō)我的眼睛雖然看著Todd，但是別人能看出來(lái)，我其實(shí)并沒(méi)有聽(tīng)進(jìn)去？

A：That's right. The courteous professional is as conscious of his body language as he is his spoken language.

C: Amy, 你能不能再提醒我一下，以后要怎么做，省得我的眼睛把我的想法都泄漏出去了。

A：記住，眼睛是心靈的窗口。Learning to control the message that your eyes send is the key to courteous communication.