A Complaint free, Happier Life　不抱怨，生活會(huì)更快樂

A Complaint free, Happier Life　不抱怨，生活會(huì)更快樂

◎ Jonathan Mead

Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. —Dale Carnegie

任何傻子都會(huì)批評(píng)、蔑視和抱怨，但是理解和寬容卻需要品格和自制力。——戴爾·卡耐基

If we really want to be happy, why do we act like such babies?

如果我們真的想要快樂，為什么還表現(xiàn)得像個(gè)嬰兒一樣呢？

We can claim to be proactive in our life by settings goals and going after what we want. But if we’re always whining and complaining all the time, are we really living effectively?

我們?cè)O(shè)定目標(biāo)并朝之奮進(jìn)，可以說(shuō)是積極地對(duì)待生活。但如果我們整天滿腹牢騷、怨天尤人，我們還會(huì)活得有效率嗎？

If you don’t believe me, count how many times you complain about something or other in one day. Whether it is being stuck in traffic, being bothered by the weather, not enough mustard on your sandwich, or whatever it is, there are endless instances where you can find a reason to complain.

如果你不信，數(shù)一數(shù)你一天之內(nèi)要抱怨多少次。抱怨堵車，抱怨天氣，抱怨三明治的芥末不夠，或者其他什么，總之你能在生活中找到無(wú)數(shù)的煩心事讓我們抱怨。

But it’s not just outside circumstances that we complain about. We complain about ourselves too. We complain that we don’t have enough time, we don’t have enough money (this one is huge because it’s often “true”), that we’re not smart enough, cool enough, or just enough.

除了抱怨外部環(huán)境，我們還不斷抱怨我們自己。抱怨自己沒有足夠的時(shí)間，沒有足夠的錢（抱怨后者的人最多，而且常常也是事實(shí)），我們還嫌棄自己不夠聰明，不夠出色，反正什么都不夠好。

I know I’ve experienced plenty of unpleasantness due to complaining about things I can’t control. I never really thought about it much until I found this website about “living in a complain free world”.

我們總是抱怨自己無(wú)法控制的事情，這讓我經(jīng)歷了太多的苦難。以前我從沒想過(guò)這個(gè)問(wèn)題，直到我發(fā)現(xiàn)這個(gè)“活在沒有抱怨的世界”的網(wǎng)站。

Imagine how much happier you would be if you simply stopped complaining? Much of what you complain about is outside of your control anyway. What’s the point of brooding about something you have no power to change? Not very intelligent, if you ask me.

想想吧，只要你停止抱怨，你會(huì)變得多么幸福？反正那些由外界控制的事情你又無(wú)力改變，糾纏這些無(wú)力改變的事情又有什么意義呢？你問(wèn)我的話，我會(huì)說(shuō)那樣很蠢。

Simply becoming conscious of how much you complain is the first step to stopping. When you recognize that you’re complaining, stop and take notice of it. Ask yourself if you would rather complain, or be happy.

首先就是要意識(shí)到你有多喜歡抱怨，這也是停止抱怨的第一步。每當(dāng)你意識(shí)到你又在抱怨時(shí)，停下來(lái)，問(wèn)問(wèn)自己是要變得快樂呢，還是繼續(xù)這樣抱怨下去。

Are you ready to live a complaint-free, happier life?

你準(zhǔn)備好去迎接一個(gè)沒有抱怨、更加快樂的生活了嗎？