Just like a band or gang of superheroes needs members who have different talents and powers, a circle of friends should have exactly the same thing. It's important to have diversity and to be able to look for support from a variety of sources. They also help us to keep broader perspective on life。
就像一個樂隊或是一群超級英雄需要具有不同天賦和能力的成員,一個朋友圈也應(yīng)這樣。擁有差異性并且能夠從各種來源中尋求支持很重要,他們也可以幫助我們擁有更廣闊的視野。
You need different types of friends in the same way that you need food from different food groups. Different types of friends serve different purposes and nourish and enrich our lives in different ways。
你需要不同類型的朋友,就像你需要不同種類的食物一樣。不同類型的朋友有不同的作用,他們以不同的方式來豐富我們的生活。
While many of us are lucky to count our real friends on one hand, there are certain types of people it’s good to have around. So, how many do you know?
雖然很多人都很幸運的擁有真正的朋友,但有幾種類型的朋友確實值得擁有。那么你知道幾種呢?
1. The friend who is cooler than you 比你更酷的朋友
The world changes quickly and some people are just that little bit better at keeping up with what's hip than we are. Like those friends who know that NO ONE EVER says "hip" any more, for instance. We like to be around these people, because they're a beacon of cool. Cool things just flock to them.
這個世界瞬息萬變,總有一些人比我們更了解什么是流行,就像有些朋友們知道現(xiàn)在沒有人再說“hip”這個詞。我們喜歡圍繞著這些人,因為他們是流行的指向標(biāo)。潮流朝著他們蜂擁而至。
These are the people who help you to open your eyes, have a flow-on effect for introducing you to other cool people and help to unstick yourself from the rut that's all too easy to get bogged in. These people enrich your life by exposing you to things that may have otherwise have passed you by。
這些人開闊了你的視野,讓你認(rèn)識到更多的潮人,使我們打破常規(guī),突破自我。他們向你展示一些你可能已經(jīng)錯過的東西,從而豐富我們的生活。
2. The friend who is up for anything 時刻待命的朋友
People are busy, we get it. But there's nothing more frustrating than having to reschedule your re-re-re-scheduled catch-up. Everyone needs a friend who you can call at the drop of a hat. A friend who says "hell yeah, I'm up for that". That's why it's good to have a mate who you don't need to issue a 28-day notice to just to meet for a frappuccino. It's refreshing (the friend, that is, not necessarily the frappuccino。
我們知道現(xiàn)在每個人都很忙,但最令人沮喪的事就是:你不得不一次次重新安排你的行程。每個人都需要一個隨叫隨到的朋友,他會對你說:“嗨,我就來。” 我們不需要為了一杯咖啡提前28天預(yù)約,這就是擁有這類朋友的好處,這令人感到愉快。(這種朋友不僅可以和你一起喝咖啡的,也可以和你一起經(jīng)歷人生。)
This friend is the flexible, no frills friend who makes your life a breeze. Nothing is ever too hard and they're open to doing new things and changing plans at short notice. Their enthusiasm is contagious and you always have more fun when they are around。
這種朋友是靈活的,不會擺架子來攪亂你的生活。對他們而言,沒有什么事情是不可克服的,他們樂于去嘗試做一些新鮮而又刺激的事情。他們的熱情會感染你,當(dāng)你待在他們身邊時你總能收獲更多的歡樂。
3. The friend who you aspire to be 令你渴望成為他那種人的朋友
Oprah Winfrey once said: "Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher". And we all need to live life a little bit closer to Oprah. These people challenge you to be the best version of yourself. The only downside is that sometimes they can be infuriating
and inspiring in equal measure. This friend is only an important role model if they behave in ways that are authentic and genuine. They will see the best in you and give you important feedback on both your strengths and weaknesses.
"奧普拉·溫弗瑞曾說:“和那些可以讓你提升自己的人在一起。” 我們都需要像奧普拉那樣生活。這些人可以激勵你變得更優(yōu)秀,唯一的不足就是,有時在他們激勵你的時候又會使你惱羞成怒。如果他們的行為是真誠的,那么他們就是你很重要的行為榜樣。他們會看見你最好的一面,也會指出你的優(yōu)劣。
4. The friend who doesn't know any of your other friends與你其他朋友不相干的朋友
We like integration. We like killing two birds with one stone by catching up with several groups of friends at once. But there are times when you need to make an S.O.S call to a friend who is completely uninvolved and removed from a situation who can offer objective advice so it a bonus that your friendship exists without orbiting around your other ones.
我們喜歡結(jié)伴而行,我們喜歡同時交好多朋友以達(dá)到一箭多雕的目的。但是有時我們需要一個可以發(fā)出“急救信號”的朋友,他與這件事毫不相干但是可以提供客觀的建議。你們的友誼在這個朋友圈之外也可以存在,這是一件令人高興的事。
There is a level of privacy to this friendship that doesn't exist in friendship circles. It will be easier to share some of your hopes and dreams, fears and concerns knowing that they are not going to be discussed when you're not around。
這種朋友圈之外的友誼擁有一定程度的隱私。你可以很輕松的傾訴你的希望、夢想、恐懼和擔(dān)憂,而不用擔(dān)心你不在場時被別人議論。
5. The friend who is painfully honest犀利卻誠實的朋友
An honest friend will not always tell you what you want to hear, but they'll certainly tell you what you need to know like if he/she is really that into you. When you've got a crisis on your hands or need to make a quick decision they are your go-to. They're also there to keep you away from mixing paisleys and stripes.
一個誠實的朋友不會總講那些你想聽的話,但如果他/她是真的關(guān)心你,他們會不時的講一些你想知道的事。在緊要關(guān)頭或面臨進(jìn)退兩難的境地時,他們就是你的首眩他們會讓你遠(yuǎn)離那些麻煩事。
This type of friend has the strength of feedback and is a pearl who will tell it to you straight when others won't or will sugarcoat things at the very least. This friend is someone who does it with good intentions and for your own benefit。
這種朋友有很強(qiáng)的反饋力,他會直言不諱的告訴你別人不愿說或掩飾的事實。這種朋友這樣做是出于好意,是真心為你著想的。
6. The friend you've known than you've known yourself了解你更勝于你了解自己的朋友
History. Sometimes it works to your advantage, other times it doesn't. This is that friend who sees you out of the context of your job, your relationship, your other friends and your life as it is now. This is the friend who knew you when you had pimples and a bowl cut.
歷史有時候會對我們產(chǎn)生有利的影響,有時候則相反。這些是能看到你的工作背景、人際關(guān)系、戀愛關(guān)系和現(xiàn)有生活之外的朋友。他們知道你什么時候有過粉刺,什么時候剪過西瓜頭發(fā)型,他們非常了解你。
There is something special about this person because they feel like home. It's nice and comforting to be around someone who has known you forever. This is a friend you never have to put on a brave face for. They know you better than you know yourself and accept you unconditionally.
在他們身上有一些特別的東西,讓你感覺像家人一樣親切。和了解你的人待在一起,會讓你感覺很舒服。你不必在他們面前故作堅強(qiáng),他們比你更了解你自己,而且毫無條件的接受你。