保持活力就是年輕！

保持活力就是年輕!

Women ask me all the time about what they're supposed to do about the men out there who say they only want younger women in their profiles.

女伴們常常問我，那些尋求交友對(duì)象的男性往往在自己的交友信息里注明，自己只接受年齡較小的女孩，這該怎么辦呢?

I remember seeing it too but I never let it stop me from favoring a man and it shouldn't stop you either.

我記得自己也遇到過這種情況，不過它從不曾阻止我對(duì)一個(gè)男人傾心。同樣它也不應(yīng)該阻止你。

But the question has always intrigued me so I did a little research to find out more about why this is happening and whether or not it's true.

不過這個(gè)問題常常引起我的思考，我做了一番探究，想看看這一現(xiàn)象發(fā)生的原因是什么，是否真的存在這種情況。

I started with an old boyfriend of mine who is 11 years older than me.

先從這個(gè)說起，我曾有一個(gè)比我大11歲的男友。

He told me it was an ego thing. He felt like women who were younger would make him feel more youthful and keep him active.

他告訴我這是一種本我作怪的結(jié)果。他覺得年輕的女孩會(huì)讓自己感到更年輕，讓自己保持活力。

He and I were from completely different generations. Some of our values and views of life were different and that created conflict, which ultimately ended our love relationship.

他和我完全是不同年代的人。兩人之間的價(jià)值觀和人生觀往往有很多差異，差異造成沖突，最后葬送了我們的愛情。

He now dates women whose ages are within five years of his.It turns out these women were not only great ... they also kept him on his toes, often outdoing him when it comes to activities.

現(xiàn)在他所交往的女性都是跟他的年齡差不了5歲的女人。他發(fā)現(xiàn)這些女性非常值得認(rèn)可，不僅如此，她們也能讓他保持活力，當(dāng)他們一起舉行游玩活動(dòng)的時(shí)候，這些女性常常比他更有活力。

Next I went to my friend Ron who has taught me so much about men and what they are looking for.

接著，我曾去向我的朋友榮恩求教。他讓我對(duì)異性，對(duì)男性追求的女子的類型有了更深刻的了解。

When I posed this question to him, he said men have this idea of what they want but most men still look at women their own age and will contact them regardless of age if they are attracted to their picture online.

當(dāng)我向他提出這個(gè)問題的時(shí)候，他告訴我，男人們對(duì)自己想要什么樣的伴侶往往心中有數(shù)，不過其實(shí)大多數(shù)男性還是會(huì)選擇與自己同齡的女性，而且如果他們覺得對(duì)方在網(wǎng)上的照片很有魅力的話，無論對(duì)方芳齡為何，他們都會(huì)主動(dòng)聯(lián)系對(duì)方。

When he was dating, Ron would date women up to five years older than he was. His girlfriend now is about a year older than he is.

當(dāng)他置身情場的時(shí)候，榮恩會(huì)選擇年齡比自己年長不過5歲的女子。他現(xiàn)在的女朋友只比他大1歲。

He told me the problem is women post pictures that make them look old. (Sound familiar? Think of all the men you thought looked old enough to be your grandfather!)

他告訴我，這個(gè)問題的癥結(jié)在于，女人們上傳到網(wǎng)上的照片往往比她們本人看起來蒼老。(聽起來耳熟嗎?想想那些你覺得看起來好像跟你爺爺差不多老的人吧!)

He said that alone stopped him from ever looking at a woman's profile regardless of her age.

他說，單單這一點(diǎn)就會(huì)讓他決意不去關(guān)注這個(gè)女子的交友信息，不管對(duì)方實(shí)際的年齡為何。

But if a woman's look appealed to him, he'd view her profile and contact her if he liked what he saw.

可是，如果一個(gè)女子的面容讓他覺得很有魅力，他就會(huì)去看對(duì)方的交友信息，如果他覺得感興趣，就會(huì)聯(lián)系她。

I've brought up this older man/younger woman subject a lot to more men and their answers are similar to what I've shared with you.

到現(xiàn)在為止，我已經(jīng)向許多男人數(shù)次提過這個(gè)大叔愛蘿莉的問題了，他們的回答都與上述我所說的意見相仿。

So what can you do to get these guys' attention in your profile?

你應(yīng)該怎么讓自己的交友信息能吸引異的注意呢?

You must have a fantastic picture that makes you look like you have great energy and are fun.

你必須有一張拍的非常好的照片，讓自己看起來活力四射，充滿樂趣。

Your profile has to trigger a man's heart to say, Hey, she might be the one. She sounds AMAZING!

你的信息要波動(dòng)他的心弦，讓他在心里說，噢，或許她就是我的真命天女。她的信息看起來真不錯(cuò)!

When you read your profile, does it make you sound amazing or is it a resume of who you are?

當(dāng)你自己讀讀自己的交友信息，它會(huì)讓你感到自己很棒，還是僅僅像簡歷一樣介紹了一下自己呢。

And finally, you have to invite a man to write you without demands attached if he's interested.

最后，如果有異性對(duì)你產(chǎn)生了好感，你必須設(shè)法在不明令對(duì)方的情況下讓他主動(dòng)給你發(fā)消息。

重點(diǎn)詞匯學(xué)習(xí)：

intrigued

adj. 好奇的;被迷住了的v. 引起…的興趣;使迷惑;策劃陰謀(intrigue的過去分詞)

contact ['k?ntækt, k?n'tækt]

n. 接觸，聯(lián)系vt. 使接觸vi. 聯(lián)系，接觸

appeal [?'pi:l]

vi. 呼吁，懇求;上訴;訴諸，求助;有吸引力，迎合愛好;(體育比賽中)訴諸裁判n. 呼吁，請(qǐng)求;吸引力，感染力;上訴;訴諸裁判vt. 將…上訴，對(duì)…上訴

profile ['pr?ufail]

n. 側(cè)面;輪廓;外形;剖面

trigger ['triɡ?]

vt. 引發(fā)，引起;觸發(fā)vi. 松開扳柄n. 扳機(jī);[電子] 觸發(fā)器;制滑機(jī)