婚禮上為什么要砸蛋糕

溫馨浪漫的婚禮上，造型優(yōu)美、寓意甜美的蛋糕為什么最后不是被吃掉，而是砸在新人的臉上?僅僅是為了好玩和開(kāi)心嗎?其實(shí)，早在古羅馬時(shí)代，就有了砸婚禮蛋糕的傳統(tǒng)，而且這項(xiàng)傳統(tǒng)還有著特別的寓意。

Weddings are by their very nature fraught with tradition, from the serious (swapping rings) to the playful. And at some point, couples decided to up the tradition of feeding the cake to each other by opting instead to smash the confection in each other's faces.

婚禮本來(lái)就有各種各樣的習(xí)俗，嚴(yán)肅點(diǎn)的有互換戒指，也有調(diào)皮的(各國(guó)習(xí)俗不同)。(西式婚禮)有個(gè)習(xí)俗便是新人互相給對(duì)方喂婚禮蛋糕，但這種習(xí)俗后來(lái)卻演變成了往對(duì)方臉上砸蛋糕。

"Newlyweds typically feed each other the first slice of wedding cake as a symbol of their commitment to provide for one another," says Rachel Sylvester, associate Real Weddings editor with The Knot in an email. "However, the symbolism is often lost and replaced with the tradition of smashing cake in each other's faces."

《愛(ài)結(jié)》雜志婚禮實(shí)況版的副主編瑞秋·西爾維斯特在電子郵件中說(shuō)：“新婚夫婦通常都會(huì)喂對(duì)方吃的第一塊婚禮蛋糕，象征著愿意和對(duì)方共度終生。但是，這層象征意義往往被遺忘，取而代之的傳統(tǒng)是往對(duì)方臉上砸蛋糕。”

This messy tradition is just the latest evolution of the wedding cake's role in nuptials. As far back as ancient Rome, the bride could expect to conclude the festivities by having a barley cake smashed upside her head. This tradition was done to symbolize male dominance and encourage fertility, according to Renée Strauss, wedding expert and founder of WEDAWAYS.

這種搗亂的傳統(tǒng)只是婚禮蛋糕角色的最新演化。早在古羅馬時(shí)期，新郎在婚禮的最后會(huì)將一塊大麥蛋糕拍到新娘頭上。WEDAWAYS創(chuàng)始人、婚禮專(zhuān)家蕾妮·施特勞斯說(shuō)，這一傳統(tǒng)象征的是男權(quán)至上與多子多孫。

"Crumbs would fall and the guests would rush in to scoop up what they could for their own good fortune and fertility," she explains in an email. "In the days of King Charles, II of England, icing was added and the modern wedding cake was born. This is when slicing the cake on the table became the practical way of sharing the slices."

她在電郵中解釋道：“蛋糕碎塊掉到地上之后，賓客便會(huì)沖過(guò)去把它們捧起來(lái)，以祈求自己的好運(yùn)和多子多孫。到了英王查理二世時(shí)期，人們?cè)诘案馍霞尤肓颂且?，現(xiàn)代蛋糕誕生了。從這個(gè)時(shí)候起人們開(kāi)始在桌上切蛋糕分給客人。”

It's tough to pinpoint when cake smashing began, but it has been around for several decades. The practice was lamented in a 2011 Dear Abby column, in which she referred to it as "demeaning to women" and referenced a 1987 book, "Curious Customs," which said it was a "comedic ritual that sustains masculine prerogatives in the very act of supposedly subverting them."

至于現(xiàn)代砸蛋糕的傳統(tǒng)是從什么時(shí)候開(kāi)始的，這很難回答。不過(guò)可以肯定的是，它至少已經(jīng)存在了幾十年。施特勞斯在2011年的“親愛(ài)的艾比”專(zhuān)欄中為這種做法嘆息，將其稱(chēng)為“對(duì)女性的侮辱”。她提到，1987年的一本書(shū)《奇怪的習(xí)俗》中寫(xiě)道，這是一種“搞笑傳統(tǒng)，以故意挑戰(zhàn)男權(quán)的方式維護(hù)男權(quán)”。

In other words, the groom is supposed to hold the bride's hand as she cuts the cake; she then attempts to feed him but smashes the cake in his face. The next step is to wipe off the goo "apologetically" which then "brings the play back to the beginning, as she is once again obedient to his wiser judgment," according to the book.

書(shū)上說(shuō)，新娘切蛋糕的時(shí)候，新郎需要握住她的手。切完之后，新娘做出要喂新郎的姿勢(shì)，但卻將蛋糕砸到他臉上。接著，新娘需要“滿(mǎn)懷歉意地”將蛋糕清理掉，以表示“一切又回到起點(diǎn)，新娘再度臣服于新郎”。

Most people are probably unaware of what the ritual is supposed to signify, seeing it either as a fun riff on the typical cake-cutting ceremony or else a silly custom that needs to go away.

不過(guò)，多數(shù)人很可能并不知道這種儀式所代表的含義，要么以為這是切蛋糕儀式的一個(gè)樂(lè)子，要么認(rèn)為這是需要摒棄的愚蠢習(xí)俗。

"Like the bouquet and garter toss, cake smashing is a so-called 'tradition' that's been in decline," Sylvester says. "This could be because more and more couples realize that it's not worth ruining a bespoke suit or covering your gown in buttercream simply for a dramatic photo op."

西爾維斯特說(shuō)道，“跟拋花束和襪帶一樣，砸蛋糕這一所謂的‘習(xí)俗’也越來(lái)越少見(jiàn)了。這可能是因?yàn)樵絹?lái)越多的新人發(fā)覺(jué)，為了拍張搶眼的照片而毀掉一身定制禮服，讓婚紗沾滿(mǎn)奶油，實(shí)在是很不值得。”

Cake smashing can actually be risky on other levels, as well. First, it's a waste of perfectly good cake, which checks in at anywhere between $1.50 and $12 per slice, depending on how elaborate it is. Cake smashing also comes with unsubstantiated, but rampant rumors that the practice is a predictor of future divorce.

事實(shí)上，砸蛋糕還有其他方面的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。首先，這是一種浪費(fèi)。根據(jù)蛋糕的精致程度，每一塊的價(jià)格大概在1.5至12美元之間(9元至76元人民幣之間)。另外，也有人迷信地認(rèn)為，這樣做預(yù)示著將來(lái)會(huì)離婚，盡管這種流言沒(méi)什么根據(jù)。

Sometimes, it can even be downright painful, as evidenced by some videos of cake-smashing gone wrong.

從一些弄巧成拙的砸蛋糕視頻中可以看到，有時(shí)候，如果蛋糕砸得太用力，甚至?xí)芡础?/p>

Courtney Geigle, co-owner of the online wedding marketplace My Wed Style, and former wedding DJ, says most of the brides he's worked with don't like the cake smash. "Once the cake starts flying, there is no control over where it may fall, including on the white dress she's been trying so hard to keep spotless, her hair which took hours to style, or even her eyes," he emails. "I've even seen a bride lose a contact lens in battle."

婚禮網(wǎng)店“我的婚禮風(fēng)格”的共同所有人考特尼·蓋格勒曾是個(gè)婚禮DJ。他說(shuō)，之前跟他合作過(guò)的新娘大多數(shù)不喜歡砸蛋糕環(huán)節(jié)。他在電郵中寫(xiě)道：“一旦蛋糕飛了起來(lái)，便無(wú)法控制它會(huì)落到哪里。辛辛苦苦保持著干凈潔白的婚紗會(huì)被弄臟，做了好幾個(gè)小時(shí)的發(fā)型也有可能弄亂，有時(shí)甚至?xí)业窖劬?。我甚至?jiàn)過(guò)有新娘在砸蛋糕時(shí)丟了隱形眼鏡。”

Despite the potential problems, lots of people defend cake smashing as a way to add humor to a celebratory occasion. "Some guests think it is disrespectful and demeaning, while others see the fun and excitement of it all," says DiCianni. "They can't wait for that last second to see what the couple will do. The suspense gets the guests every time. We love it either way because the smiles and laughter it brings is still what we want at the end of the day."

雖然存在這些問(wèn)題，但很多人還是覺(jué)得砸蛋糕可以讓婚慶現(xiàn)場(chǎng)更有趣。迪西安尼說(shuō)：“有些客人覺(jué)得這種做法不敬又侮辱人，而其他一些人則覺(jué)得又好玩又刺激。他們等不及要看到新人會(huì)怎么做。每一次這種懸念都會(huì)吸引賓客。不管砸不砸蛋糕，我們都高興，因?yàn)樵业案鈳?lái)的笑容和歡樂(lè)是我們?cè)诨槎Y的最后想看到的。”

To ensure those smiles, both members of the bridal couple need to be on board with the ritual before it begins. "Overall, weddings should be a display of love and affection, not a battle for dominance over 'who takes the cake.'" says Geigle.

當(dāng)然了，為了保證大家都感到開(kāi)心，新郎新娘需要在儀式開(kāi)始前達(dá)成共識(shí)才行。蓋格勒說(shuō)：“畢竟婚禮是為了在眾人面前表達(dá)對(duì)彼此的愛(ài)意，而不是為了讓兩個(gè)人爭(zhēng)個(gè)高低。”