當(dāng)你覺得自己毫無(wú)價(jià)值的時(shí)候要記住的事情

當(dāng)你覺得自己毫無(wú)價(jià)值的時(shí)候要記住的事情

You’re having one of those days or weeks. Nothing seems to be working, your motivation is all gone, and you’re daydreaming about quitting. Your confidence is running empty and you’re feeling worthless.

你會(huì)有那么一天或幾周，一切似乎都不奏效，你的動(dòng)力都消失了，你在做放棄的白日夢(mèng)。你的信心正在耗盡，感覺自己毫無(wú)價(jià)值。

However, the longer you stay in a state of feeling worthless, the more clarity and momentum you start to lose. Because while feeling this way is normal, staying there becomes a choice.

然而，你在一種感覺毫無(wú)價(jià)值的狀態(tài)中停留的時(shí)間越長(zhǎng)，你就會(huì)開始失去更多的清晰感和動(dòng)力。因?yàn)殡m然這種感覺很正常，但留在那里就成了一種選擇。

In this article, you’re going to learn some things to remember and practical steps to help you come out the other side with more resolve and clarity, not less. Let’s dive in.

在這篇文章中，你將學(xué)習(xí)一些需要記住的事情，以及幫助你更堅(jiān)定、更清晰地走出另一面的實(shí)用步驟。就讓我們一探究竟吧。

1. High Growth Equals High Vulnerability

快發(fā)展等于高脆弱性

You wouldn’t be reading this article if you weren’t someone committed to their personal and professional growth. And let’s be clear here—a high growth life requires dealing with messy emotions.

如果你不是一個(gè)致力于個(gè)人和職業(yè)成長(zhǎng)的人，你就不會(huì)讀這篇文章。讓我們?cè)谶@里明確一點(diǎn)——快發(fā)展的生活需要處理混亂的情緒。

Why?

為什么?

Well, for starters, you’re leaving your comfort zone. You’re working on yourself. You’re no longer a “talker” but someone who is actually doing it. It’s important to remember what you’re going through now is a natural part of growth.

首先，你要離開你的舒適區(qū)。你是在為自己工作。你不再是一個(gè)“說(shuō)空話的人”，而是一個(gè)真正做事情的人。記住你現(xiàn)在所經(jīng)歷的是成長(zhǎng)過(guò)程中很自然的一部分，這一點(diǎn)很重要。

2. You’re Exactly Where You Need to Be

你就在你需要去的地方

One of the biggest misconceptions in psychology is that you should feel bad if you’re feeling bad. There couldn’t be anything further from the truth; ”negative” emotions are as healthy as positive ones. It is our reaction to negative emotions that can cause harm. But the emotion alone is a healthy and normal part of life.

心理學(xué)中最大的錯(cuò)誤觀念之一是，如果你感覺不好，你就應(yīng)該感覺不好。沒有什么比這更不真實(shí)的了;“消極”情緒和積極情緒一樣健康。正是我們對(duì)負(fù)面情緒的反應(yīng)才會(huì)造成傷害。但是情緒本身是生活中健康正常的一部分。

This means that feeling worthless can be a catalyst to growth, not a roadblock.

這意味著感覺自己毫無(wú)價(jià)值可以成為成長(zhǎng)的催化劑，而不是障礙。

3. Zoom Out to Step Away From the Trenches

縮小距離，放眼長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)

Often, we can be in a momentary valley—the place where we feel worthless and wonder what it’s all for. In this place, we can’t see clearly and quitting seems like a great idea.

通常，我們會(huì)處于短暫的低谷——在那里我們覺得自己毫無(wú)價(jià)值，想知道這一切都是為了什么。在這個(gè)地方，我們看不清楚，放棄似乎是個(gè)好主意。

Bestselling author and marketing guru Seth Godin calls this the “dip,” and Scott Belsky of Adobe calls this the messy middle. However we choose to name it, I want you to remember that growth is never linear.

暢銷書作家和營(yíng)銷大師Seth Godin稱之為“dip”，Adobe的Scott Belsky稱之為“混亂的中間”。無(wú)論我們選擇如何命名，我希望你們記住，增長(zhǎng)從來(lái)都不是線性的。

A breakthrough leads to a plateau, leading to a breakdown and vice versa. There are ups and downs and last-second challenges we never expected.

突破會(huì)導(dǎo)致停滯，導(dǎo)致崩潰，反之亦然。有起起落落，也有我們從未預(yù)料到的最后一秒的挑戰(zhàn)。

This is when you must zoom out of your current valley. Expand your time horizons, and recognize how far you’ve come during the last six months or three years. This reminds you that you have grown, and it provides some much-needed perspective.

這時(shí)您必須縮小當(dāng)前谷值。擴(kuò)大你的時(shí)間范圍，認(rèn)識(shí)到在過(guò)去的六個(gè)月或三年里你已經(jīng)走了多遠(yuǎn)。這提醒你，你已經(jīng)成長(zhǎng)了，并提供了一些急需的視角。

4. This Feeling Is Temporary

這種感覺是暫時(shí)的

Feeling worthless usually comes with an emotional storm that can leave us disoriented, lacking confidence, and not wanting to do much of anything. But remember: emotions are like the weather: scattered, random, unpredictable.

感覺沒有價(jià)值通常伴隨著一場(chǎng)情緒風(fēng)暴，它會(huì)讓我們迷失方向，缺乏自信，不想做任何事情。但是記住:情緒就像天氣:分散的，隨機(jī)的，不可預(yù)測(cè)的。

Sure, the weather can be intense—a random thunderstorm with howling winds, but the next day, the sun comes back out and everything is peaceful and normal again.

當(dāng)然，天氣可能會(huì)很惡劣——偶爾會(huì)有雷暴伴有狂風(fēng)呼嘯，但第二天，太陽(yáng)又出來(lái)了，一切又恢復(fù)了平靜和正常。

Your emotions work this way, too. Remember that your current state is temporary. In fact, brain scientist Jill Bolte Taylor argues that any emotion lasts much shorter than we believe. According to Taylor, the chemical process of emotion only lasts 90 seconds.

你的情緒也是這樣工作的。記住，你目前的狀態(tài)是暫時(shí)的。事實(shí)上，大腦科學(xué)家吉爾·博爾特·泰勒認(rèn)為，任何情緒持續(xù)的時(shí)間都比我們想象的要短得多。根據(jù)泰勒的說(shuō)法，情緒的化學(xué)過(guò)程只持續(xù)90秒。

What does this mean to you?

這對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)意味著什么?

You will feel better. You will feel worthy, motivated, and excited about life again. The acceptance of this state, instead of resistance, leads to a sense of peace.

你會(huì)感覺好些的。你會(huì)再次感受到生活的價(jià)值、動(dòng)力和興奮。接受這種狀態(tài)，而不是反抗，會(huì)帶來(lái)一種平和的感覺。