醫(yī)生講述人們離世時(shí)最后悔的20件事

Close your eyes and imagine that you’re at your ownfuneral—a bitmorbid I know, but there’s a reason for it. Now think about what you’d like people to say about you. What kind of a life do you want to lead? People die with all kinds of regrets. Don’t be one of them。

閉上眼睛想象你是在自己的葬禮上，我知道這場景肯定是讓人有些恐怖，但這其中是有原因的?，F(xiàn)在想一想你想要和大家都說些什么。你想要過什么樣的生活?人們總是帶著各種遺憾后悔離開人世，不要成為帶著遺憾離世的人。

1. I wish I’d cared less about what other people think

我希望我不那么在乎別人的想法

It’s only when you realise how little other people are really thinking of you (in a negative sense) that you realise how much time you spent caring and wasting energy worrying about this。

只有當(dāng)你意識到別人真的很少對你有什么(消極)看法時(shí)，你才覺悟到自己浪費(fèi)了太多的時(shí)間和精力在乎這件事。

2. I wish I had accomplished more

我希望我多取得一些成就

You don’t have to have won an Oscar, built up a business or run a marathon, but having small personal accomplishments is important。

并不是非獲奧斯卡大獎(jiǎng)不可，不是去干一番大事業(yè)也不是去跑馬拉松，但小小的個(gè)人成就也很重要。

3. I wish I had told __ how I truly felt

我希望我說出對某事的真實(shí)感受

Even if the “one” doesn’t exist, telling someone how you truly feel will always save you from that gut wrenching “but what if…” feeling that could linger for life if you stay quiet。

即使這件事并不存在，對別人說出你的真實(shí)感受，總不至于那樣揪心斷腸想著“要是.。.” ，如果你總是保持緘默，這就等于浪費(fèi)生命。

4. I wish I had stood up for myself more

我希望我多為自己發(fā)聲

Sometimes, it’s too easy to think that if you go all out to please everyone you’ll be liked more or your partner won’t run off with anyone else. I think age probably teaches us to be nice but not at the expense of our own happiness。

有時(shí)候，我們會認(rèn)為如果自己竭盡全力去討好所有人，別人就會多喜歡你一點(diǎn)，你的愛人也不會跟別人跑了。這種想法太單純了。我認(rèn)為歲月很可能會教會我們：可以待人友好，但不要以以犧牲自己的幸福而作為代價(jià)。

5. I wish I had followed my passion in life

我希望我對生命抱以熱忱的態(tài)度

It’s so easy to be seduced by a stable salary, a solid routine and a comfortable life, but at what expense?

往往容易被一份穩(wěn)定的薪水誘惑，有規(guī)律的上下班工作，過著舒坦隨心的日子，但代價(jià)是什么呢?

6. I wish our last conversation hadn’t been an argument.

我希望我們最后一次對話不是以一場爭論結(jié)束的

Life is short, and you never really know when the last time you speak to someone you love will be. It’s these moments that really stay clear in peoples’ minds。

生命如此短暫，你真的不知道哪一刻就成了你和你深愛的人的臨終對話。這樣的時(shí)刻真的會給人留下清晰的印象。

7. I wish I had let my children grow up to be who they wanted to be。

我希望我把我的孩子撫養(yǎng)成他們想要成為的人

The realisation that love, compassion and empathy are so much more important than clashes in values or belief systems can hit home hard。

愛心、同情心和共鳴要遠(yuǎn)比利益沖突或信仰價(jià)值重要得多，這樣的意識會在某一刻狠狠擊中你。

8. I wish I had lived more in the moment.

我希望此刻長久一些

Watching children grow up makes you realise how short-lived and precious time really is, and as we age, many of us live less and less in the present。

看到孩子們長大成人，你會意識到生命如此短暫如此寶貴，隨著年齡的增長，我們很多人的余生越來越短暫。

9. I wish I had worked less

我希望我減少工作時(shí)間

There’s always a desire to have loosened up a bit more with this one and the realisation that financial success or career accomplishment doesn’t necessarily equal a fulfilled life。

總渴望多放松一下自己，意識到經(jīng)濟(jì)成功或職業(yè)成就并不一定等于你擁有幸福滿足的生活。

10. I wish I had travelled more

我希望我多出去旅游

It can be done at any age, with kids or not but many talk themselves out of it for all kinds of reasons such as lack of money, mortgage, children, etc. When there’s a regret, you know it could have been possible at some stage。

無論哪個(gè)年齡段的人不管有沒有孩子都可以多出去旅游，但許多人卻找各種各樣的理由打消去旅行的想法，例如，缺錢、按揭、帶孩子等。以后你可能就會后悔。

11. I wish I had trusted my gut rather than listening to everyone else

我希望我相信我的直覺而不是聽別人的

Making your own decisions and feeling confident in the decisions you make gives us fulfilment and joy from life. Going against your gut only breeds resentment and bitterness。

自己做決定才會對自己的決定有自信，感受生命中的成就和喜悅。違背自己的直覺只能留給自己怨恨和痛苦。

12. I wish I’d taken better care of myself

我希望我把自己照顧得好一些

Premature health problems or ageing always makes you wonder if you’d eaten healthier, exercised more and been less stressed, would you be where you are today?

提前衰老或遭遇這樣那樣的健康問題，你總想知道自己吃得是否健康?多運(yùn)動(dòng)鍛煉身體了嗎?給自己減壓了嗎?你是想成為今天這個(gè)身體狀況的你嗎?

13. I wish I’d taken more risks

我希望我多冒險(xiǎn)

Everyone has their own idea of what’s risky, but you know when you’re living too much in your comfort zone. In hindsight, some people feel they missed out on a lot of adventure life has to offer。

每個(gè)人對何為風(fēng)險(xiǎn)都有著自己的看法，但是你會發(fā)現(xiàn)自己在舒適區(qū)里過得太久了。赫然回想，有些人會感覺到他們錯(cuò)過了許多眼前冒險(xiǎn)刺激的生活。

14. I wish I’d had more time

我希望我有更多的時(shí)間

Many people say time speeds up as we age. The six weeks of summer holidays we had as kids certainly seemed to last a lifetime. If time speeds up, then it’s even more important to make the most of every moment。

許多人說，時(shí)間如逝歲月如梭，把我們給催老了。六周的暑假時(shí)光對于兒時(shí)的我們貌似是過了一生之久。若感覺時(shí)光飛速逝去的話，那么，把每個(gè)時(shí)刻都最大程度地得以利用才更重要。

15. I wish I hadn’t worried so much

我希望我不那么擔(dān)心焦慮

If you’ve ever kept a diary and looked back, you’ll probably wonder why you ever got so worked up over X。

如果你曾記日記，回過頭來看看，很可能你想知道為什么你要為X賣命般地工作。

16. I wish I’d appreciated ___ more

我希望我更加感激___

The consequences of taking people for granted are always hard to deal with。

把別人對你的好當(dāng)做理所當(dāng)然，后果總是讓人很棘手。

17. I wish I’d spent more time with my family

我希望我陪伴家人的時(shí)間多一些

Some people get caught up with work, move to other parts of the world, grow old with grudges against family members only to realise their priorities were in the wrong place。

有些人忙于工作，有些人搬到世界上別的地方居住，有些人帶著對家庭成員憤恨過到老，最后只會發(fā)現(xiàn)自己把重點(diǎn)放錯(cuò)了地方。

18. I wish I hadn’t taken myself so seriously

我希望我活得不那么較真

Life is just more fun when you can laugh at yourself。

當(dāng)我們能坦然嘲笑自己時(shí)，生活似乎有更多樂趣。

19. I wish I’d done more for other people.

我希望我為別人多做一些事情

Doing things for others just makes life more meaningful。

為了自己的生活更加有意義多為別人做一些事情。

20. I wish I could have felt more happy。

我希望我能感受到更加幸?？鞓?。

The realisation that happiness is a state of mind that you can control sometimes doesn’t occur to people until it’s too late。

實(shí)現(xiàn)幸福是一種思想狀態(tài)而已，有時(shí)，人們來不及去控制幸福的降臨。