最貼心的母親節(jié)禮物

I`m not going to beat around the bush here. I`ll just say it like it is. All the hype around Mother`s Day is ridiculous. For a holiday that`s supposed to celebrate the precious relationship between a mother and her child, there sure is a lot to distract me from that relationship.

我不打算在這里繞圈子，直話直說好了。所有有關(guān)母親節(jié)的宣傳炒作都那么滑稽可笑。對(duì)于一個(gè)人們應(yīng)該慶祝母親和孩子之間的珍貴關(guān)系的節(jié)日，肯定有許多東西會(huì)分散我對(duì)這種關(guān)系的注意力。

I mean, give me a break. My mother does not need any more bath stuff. If she`s at all like me, she`s gotten enough lotion over the years to soothe her skin into the 23rd century! And she doesn`t want any chocolate. In fact, it`s my dad who likes that, way more than she does. Let`s face it. If you have a strong enough relationship with your mother to want to buy her a gift for Mother`s Day, most of the gifts out there scream GENERIC!!!

我的意思是，饒了我吧。我母親不需要什么沐浴用品，如果她真的完全跟我一樣，她會(huì)有足夠的護(hù)膚品來保護(hù)自己的皮膚，到23世紀(jì)也不怕變老!而且她根本不想要巧克力。實(shí)際上，是我的爸爸喜歡巧克力，比她更喜歡。面對(duì)現(xiàn)實(shí)吧。如果你深愛自己的母親想要給她買一份母親節(jié)禮物的話，大多數(shù)禮物都那么“普通”!!!

Over the years, I`ve come up with some ways to give to my mom that avoid all the hype and the sappy generic-ness of the holiday as its often celebrated. As a bonus, if you think about it now, you`ll be ready for the day when it comes!

這些年來，我想出了很多避免炒作和流俗的方法來給母親過節(jié)。作為獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)，如果你現(xiàn)在正在思考母親節(jié)怎么過，那么當(dāng)那一天到來時(shí)你就會(huì)有充足的準(zhǔn)備!

Spend time with your mom

跟媽媽共度美好時(shí)光

I know, it`s a shocker. But the truth is that most moms I know want to hear from their kids more than they do. You can even do this if you live far away from your mom. Give her a call and let her know you want to talk for a while, or set up a phone date ahead of time so you`ll both be free to focus on each other. Then ask her about herself, how her days are going and what she`s feeling. Focus on hearing her heart. After all, this is the woman who birthed you...maybe knowing her will help you know yourself better, and that`s never a bad thing.

我知道你會(huì)對(duì)此大吃一驚。然而事實(shí)是，我認(rèn)識(shí)的大多數(shù)媽媽都想得到孩子的消息，孩子跟媽媽的聯(lián)系太少了。即便你和媽媽住得很遠(yuǎn)，你仍然可以這樣做。給她打個(gè)電話，讓她知道你想跟她聊一會(huì)兒，或者提前定好一個(gè)打電話的日子，從而你們兩個(gè)都有時(shí)間集中精力交流。問問媽媽的近況，她每天都是怎么過的，都有什么感受。集中精力傾聽她內(nèi)心的聲音。畢竟，這是那個(gè)生育了你的女人……或許了解她能夠幫你更好地了解你自己，這從來就不是一件壞事兒。

Write down your memories of her

寫下你對(duì)她的回憶

Many moms love to know what their kids remember from childhood and how they perceived the things that happened then. Make a list of these for your mom, focusing on ones that highlight positive changes in your relationship with her. Make the list pretty, and give it to her. Or, tear each memory off in a strip, fold it up and put it in a jar. Give her the sealed jar for Mother`s Day, and she can pull out a memory every day until they`re gone. If you run short on memories, do the same with lessons you`ve learned from her.

許多媽媽想要知道她們的孩子從童年時(shí)代起就記住的事情，以及他們是如何感知當(dāng)時(shí)所發(fā)生的事情的。為你的媽媽列這樣一個(gè)清單，主要記錄那些能夠突出使你們的關(guān)系積極發(fā)展的事情。把清單做得漂亮一些，送給媽媽?；蛘?，把每條回憶寫在一個(gè)小紙條上，折起來放到一個(gè)廣口瓶里。在母親節(jié)那天把密封的瓶子送給她，這樣她就能每天拿出一小張來回憶。如果你能回憶起的事情并不多，那么可以以同樣的方式總結(jié)媽媽教會(huì)你的人生經(jīng)驗(yàn)。

Take photos with her

和她拍照

Was your mom one of those people who has every family event for the last 30 years documented in extensive photographic detail? Then spend some time getting pictures taken with her. Take her to a favorite park or garden, or do it in your own backyard. While you can hire a professional photographer, all you really need is a digital camera and someone who knows how to operate it. Your poses can be silly or serene, but no matter how they turn out, taking them will make your mom`s day.

你媽媽是那種把過去30年的每一項(xiàng)家庭活動(dòng)的細(xì)節(jié)都記錄下來的人嗎?那么花些時(shí)間跟她一起拍照吧。帶她去她最喜歡的公園或者花園，或者去自己家的后院。雖然你可以雇一位專業(yè)的攝影師，但其實(shí)你真正需要的只是一臺(tái)數(shù)碼相機(jī)和一個(gè)會(huì)使用相機(jī)的人。你的姿勢可以傻傻的，也可以看上去很安靜，但無論拍出來效果如何，拍攝這些照片會(huì)讓你的媽媽很開心。

Clean her house

打掃房間

I know a few people who like to clean, but even they can find it overwhelming when life gets busy. So pick up a bucket and a mop and show mom that you really do remember all her lessons on scrubbing the house. You don`t have to clean everything and you don`t even have to to the best job ever. As long as you`re willing to get your hands dirty, she`ll be happy, and relieved that she didn`t have to do it herself!

我認(rèn)識(shí)一些喜歡打掃的人，但即便是他們也會(huì)在忙碌的時(shí)候覺得打掃衛(wèi)生這件事讓人不知所措。因此，拿起水桶和拖把，讓媽媽知道你真的記住了她在打掃屋子的問題上教給你的一切。你不需要把所有東西都打掃一遍，甚至不需要做得最好。只要你愿意動(dòng)手打掃，她就會(huì)很開心，她會(huì)因?yàn)樽约翰槐赜H自去打掃而減輕了負(fù)擔(dān)!

Remember her

記住她

Instead of focusing your love on your mom only at Mother`s Day, come up with a comprehensive plan to love her year-round. This doesn`t have to be hard. Maybe it means you call her every-other Sunday instead of whenever-you-feel-like-it-which-sometimes-means-a-month-goes-by-without-talking. Put her in your calendar, or ask an assistant to put it in theirs and remind you when the time comes. Your mom might not notice the difference on Mother`s Day, but she`ll appreciate the thought throughout the year.

不要只在母親節(jié)的時(shí)候才將你的愛傾注在媽媽身上，想出一個(gè)全面的計(jì)劃可以一年到頭地去愛她吧。這不需要多么費(fèi)勁?；蛟S也就是你每隔一個(gè)周日給她打電話，而不是只有在你想打電話的時(shí)候才打，因?yàn)橛袝r(shí)就意味著一個(gè)月過去了你都沒有跟媽媽說上一句話。將與媽媽有關(guān)的事情寫在日歷上，或者請(qǐng)一個(gè)幫手讓他記在日歷上到時(shí)候可以提醒你。你的媽媽或許不會(huì)注意到母親節(jié)那天有何不同，但是她喜歡這個(gè)一年到頭的計(jì)劃。

Here`s hoping that one of these ideas will work for you, or will spark a desire in you to do something that will show your mom how much you value that relationship.

在此，希望這些想法能夠?qū)δ阌袔椭?，或者能給你一些靈感，來向你的媽媽展示你有多么珍視你們之間的關(guān)系。