走在奔三的路上：20歲出頭的女人應(yīng)該懂得的30件事

By 30, you should have ...

年屆三十，你應(yīng)該擁有：

1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.

兩個(gè)與你相處多年的藍(lán)顏知己，一個(gè)讓你隨時(shí)可以回顧過(guò)去，另一個(gè)提醒你現(xiàn)在的你走了多遠(yuǎn)。

2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.

一件專屬于你的精致家具。

3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.

一件完美的衣服，在你的上司或夢(mèng)中情人想在一個(gè)小時(shí)之內(nèi)見你時(shí)，你可以立馬穿上出門。

4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.

一個(gè)別人能看得過(guò)眼的錢包、旅行箱和一把傘。

5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.

一段充實(shí)絢爛的青春往事。

6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.

一段鮮活多彩的過(guò)去，在你老去的時(shí)候還值得拿出來(lái)細(xì)細(xì)復(fù)述。

7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it.

一番自己終將老去的感悟，以及可以支撐你度過(guò)晚年的一點(diǎn)積蓄。

8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.

一個(gè)電子郵箱地址，一個(gè)語(yǔ)音郵箱，一個(gè)銀行賬戶(只有你一個(gè)人知道密碼)。

9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.

一份真實(shí)沒有一點(diǎn)夸大的簡(jiǎn)歷。

10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.

一個(gè)常常逗你開心的朋友，一個(gè)會(huì)讓你暢懷痛哭的朋友。

11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.

一套螺絲刀工具，一個(gè)無(wú)線電鉆，一件黑色蕾絲的文胸。

12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.

一件自己買的貴得離譜的奢侈品，只因你配得上這價(jià)格。

13. The belief that you deserve it.

一個(gè)你認(rèn)為值得相信的信仰。

14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.

一套護(hù)膚秘方，一個(gè)鍛煉習(xí)慣，還有一個(gè)計(jì)劃來(lái)處理那些從30歲開始不會(huì)變好的事情。

15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.

穩(wěn)步地開始一個(gè)令人滿意的事業(yè)、一段令人滿意的感情，及所有那些從30歲開始變好的事情。

By 30, you should know ...

年屆30，你應(yīng)該懂得：

1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.

如何理智地戀愛又不迷失自己。

2. How you feel about having kids.

要不要孩子。

3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.

如何辭去一份工作，與戀人分手，以及不傷和氣地與朋友對(duì)峙。

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

何時(shí)該更努力地爭(zhēng)取，何時(shí)該識(shí)趣地放手。

5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.

如何接吻才能正確傳達(dá)你是否想要進(jìn)一步發(fā)展。

6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.

知道國(guó)務(wù)卿的名字，你曾祖母的和外曾祖母的名字，還有全鎮(zhèn)最好的裁縫的名字。

7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.

如何獨(dú)自生活(即便你并不喜歡)。

8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing.

知道在心情需要撫慰的時(shí)候該去哪里：也許是閨蜜廚房的桌旁，也許是瑜伽墊上。

9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.

懂得你沒法讓腿變得修長(zhǎng)，沒法讓臀部變得更翹，也沒法改變父母的性格。

10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.

也許你的童年并不十分美好，但是一切都過(guò)去了。

11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.

懂得在金錢和愛情的問(wèn)題上什么該做、什么不該做。

12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.

那些抽煙、酗酒、吸毒和長(zhǎng)期不刷牙的人，他們?cè)缤頃?huì)自作自受。

13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.

哪些人你該相信，哪些不該相信，還有不必看得太重的原因。

14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.

如果不是你的錯(cuò)，就不必為之道歉。

15. Why they say life begins at 30.

明白為什么說(shuō)人們會(huì)說(shuō)30歲才是生活的開始。

What's on your personal list of things to have and know -- and possibly do -- before turning 30?

在你人生的清單上，哪些你已經(jīng)擁有和懂得了的?或者早在30歲以前你就已經(jīng)在這么做了?