英語(yǔ)美文朗讀 第455期 10 Types Of People You Need To Completely Avoid!
We are surrounded by all types of people. While no two individuals are the same, sadly, there are way too many people that can be classified as toxic. Even minimal interaction with toxic people can have a huge impact on performance and happiness. So, what can you do about it? Simple, Just try to stay away from these types of negative people, as much as you can!
我們被各種各樣的人包圍著，雖然沒有兩個(gè)人是一樣的，但是有太多的人可以被歸類為“有毒的”。即使與有毒的人進(jìn)行最小程度的互動(dòng)，也會(huì)讓你的幸福感大大降低。那么，你能做些什么呢？一句話，盡量遠(yuǎn)離這些消極的人！
Number 1 - Judgmental
Everyone has flaws, and when someone points them out, it can help you improve yourself. However, you should be able to recognize the difference between a person who expresses their concerns honestly and in a constructive manner, and those who use your weaknesses as an opportunity to attack you. If you know someone who is quick to point out and criticize your mistakes, but never seems to recognize your accomplishments, they’re the type of toxic person who is likely to eventually wear you down.
①喜歡給出負(fù)面評(píng)價(jià)的人。每個(gè)人都有缺點(diǎn)，當(dāng)有人指出時(shí)，它可以幫助你提高自己。然而，你應(yīng)該能夠認(rèn)識(shí)到，“善意的提醒”和“惡意的攻擊”是有本質(zhì)區(qū)別的。如果一個(gè)人很輕易就指出并批評(píng)你的錯(cuò)誤，但卻從未認(rèn)可你成就的人，那么他們就是那種最終會(huì)讓你精疲力竭的人。
Number 2 - Envious
To envious people, the grass is always greener somewhere else. Even when something great happens to them, they don’t derive any satisfaction from it. This is because they measure their fortune against other people’s. And let’s face it, there’s always someone out there who’s doing better. Spending too much time around envious people is dangerous, because they teach you to trivialize your own accomplishments.
②嫉妒心強(qiáng)的人。對(duì)于這部分人來(lái)說，別人家的草總是更加綠一些。即使發(fā)生了什么好事，他們也不會(huì)從中得到任何滿足。這是因?yàn)?，他們總是用別人的財(cái)富標(biāo)準(zhǔn)來(lái)衡量自己的財(cái)富。但現(xiàn)實(shí)是，總會(huì)有人比我們做得更好。跟喜歡嫉妒的人做朋友，是非常危險(xiǎn)的，因?yàn)樗麄円矔?huì)教你，把自己的成就看得微不足道。
Number 3 - Needy
These are the people who just want to sit around all day and be served by others, so they don’t have to lift a finger. They want you to be there for them nonstop… and if you dare try to point out their wrong doings, they know how to make you feel guilty and ashamed. So if there’s someone in your life with similar traits, you should try to avoid them.
③貪得無(wú)厭之人。 這些人只想整天坐在那里，享受別人的服務(wù)，連手指都不抬一下。他們想讓你不停地陪著他們……如果你敢指出他們的錯(cuò)誤行為，他們知道如何讓你感到內(nèi)疚和羞恥。所以，如果你的生活中，有這樣的人，你應(yīng)該盡量避免接觸他們。
Number 4 - Pessimists
These kinds of people tend to see only the negative side of everything. They always ignore the bright side of things and deliberately try to bring others down. It’s like they’ve decided for themselves that everything in life is bad, and by blocking out any positive emotions, they will avoid getting hurt. But, they just end up hurting others instead! It’s best to stay away from pessimists. They will only fill you with negativity and despair.
④悲觀主義者。這些人往往只看到事物的消極一面。他們總是忽視事物的光明面，故意想把別人打倒。他們自己堅(jiān)信，人生就是負(fù)面的，生活中的每件事都是不好的，通過阻止任何積極的情緒，他們將避免受到傷害。但是，他們最終只會(huì)傷害別人！最好遠(yuǎn)離悲觀主義者。他們只會(huì)讓你充滿消極和絕望。
Number 5 - Liars
Little white lies usually aren’t harmful, and most people do it every now and then. For example, when you throw a surprise party for someone, you have to lie a little, in order to keep it a surprise, right? But there are many habitual liars who will lie to make themselves feel better, or to look better in others’ eyes. Toxic people who lie frequently can destroy you. They leave you no room for trust in a relationship. In order to grow, you have to surround yourself with trustworthy people who will support you and offer candid and honest opinions.
⑤謊話精。善意謊言通常是無(wú)害的，大多數(shù)人偶爾也會(huì)這樣做。例如，當(dāng)你為某人舉辦驚喜派對(duì)時(shí)，你必須撒一點(diǎn)謊，以保持驚喜，對(duì)吧？但是有很多撒謊成性的人， 他們說謊是為了讓自己感覺更好，或者想在別人眼中維持一個(gè)好的形象。經(jīng)常撒謊的人會(huì)毀了你。他們讓你在一段關(guān)系中沒有信任的余地。為了成長(zhǎng)，你必須讓自己身邊有值得信賴的人，他們會(huì)支持你，提供坦誠(chéng)和誠(chéng)實(shí)的意見。
Number 6 - Complainers
We all have shitty days. Life doesn’t always go as we want it to, and sometimes we just need to vent. But then, there are those who complain all the time! Nothing is ever good enough. Nothing is ever right. Nothing is ever going their way. And they feel the need to share it with you! They keep repeating the same mistakes over and over, and they refuse to take responsibility for their choices. For all that’s going wrong in their lives, they blame everyone but themselves.
⑥喜歡抱怨的人。我們都有過糟糕的日子。生活并不總是如我們所愿，有時(shí)我們也需要發(fā)泄。但是，也有人卻一直抱怨！沒有什么會(huì)讓他們漫游，什么都是錯(cuò)的，任何事情都不合他們的心意。而且他們覺得有必要和你分享這些！他們一遍又一遍地重復(fù)著同樣的內(nèi)容，他們拒絕為自己的選擇來(lái)承擔(dān)責(zé)任。對(duì)于他們生活中的所有錯(cuò)誤，他們只會(huì)怪別人，從來(lái)不在自己身上找問題。
Number 7 - Drama Queens
These people need to be the center of attention. They create a crisis everywhere they go. They’ll often pit one person against the other and then sit back and enjoy the show. They welcome trouble, and then make other people’s lives hell. The good thing is, these trouble makers are easy to spot, so it won’t be too hard to avoid them.
⑦戲精。這些人需要成為眾人關(guān)注的焦點(diǎn)。他們到處制造危機(jī)。他們經(jīng)常讓一個(gè)人和另一個(gè)人開戰(zhàn)，然后坐下來(lái)欣賞表演。他們喜歡制造麻煩，然后讓別人的生活變成地獄。好在，這些麻煩制造者很容易被發(fā)現(xiàn)，所以想避免他們也不會(huì)太難。
Number 8 - Gossipers
Some people derive pleasure from other people’s misfortunes. They enjoy spreading around rumors and discussing people instead of focusing on their own issues. Everyone gets caught up in it sometimes… You see, if you listen to gossip, what tends to happen, is you end up either gossiping, or you might have negative feelings about the person who is being gossiped about. While it might be fun to find out about someone’s personal or professional fuck-ups, over time, it gets tiring. And remember, people around you who are eagerly talking about others, are probably going to talk about YOU as well, when you’re not around!
⑧八卦的人。有些人從別人的不幸中得到快樂。他們喜歡散播謠言和討論別人，而不是專注于自己的問題。幾乎每個(gè)人都會(huì)被卷入其中。如果你經(jīng)常聽流言蜚語(yǔ)，會(huì)發(fā)生什么事？最終你要么也開始傳播流言蜚語(yǔ)，要么你可能對(duì)被八卦的人有負(fù)面的感覺。雖然了解某人的八卦信息可能很有趣，但隨著時(shí)間的推移，這會(huì)變得很無(wú)趣。記住，當(dāng)你不在的時(shí)候，你周圍那些談?wù)搫e人的人，可能也會(huì)談?wù)撃悖?/p>
Number 9 - Victims
Victims are tough to identify because you initially empathize with their problems. But as time passes, you begin to realize that their “time of need” is all the time. Victims actively push away any personal responsibility by making every speed bump they encounter
into an un-crossable mountain. These people are typically immature and lack the ability to face their own challenges or hardships. If you don’t get away from them as quickly as possible, odds are they’ll load all of their problems and responsibilities on you!
⑨受害者 。受害者很難辨認(rèn)，因?yàn)槟阕畛鯐?huì)同情他們的問題，但是隨著時(shí)間的推移，你開始意識(shí)到他們一直需要?jiǎng)e人的關(guān)注。受害者每次遇到困難，都會(huì)推卸個(gè)人責(zé)任，把困難描述的無(wú)比巨大。 這些人通常不成熟，缺乏面對(duì)自身挑戰(zhàn)或困難的能力。如果你不盡快擺脫他們，他們很可能會(huì)把所有的問題和責(zé)任都推到你身上！
Number 10 - Manipulators
Using the facade of friendship, manipulators suck time and energy out of your life. Since they treat you like a friend, they can be tricky to deal with. They know what you like, what makes you happy, and what makes you laugh. The difference is, that they use this information as part of a hidden motive. They’ll do anything to win you over, just so they can control you. Manipulators always want something from you, and if you look back on your relationships with them, it’s all take, take, and take - with little or no giving.
⑩控制狂。利用友誼的外表，操縱者從你的生活中吸取時(shí)間和精力。因?yàn)樗麄儼涯惝?dāng)作朋友對(duì)待，所以很難對(duì)付。他們知道你喜歡什么，什么讓你快樂，什么讓你笑。區(qū)別在于，他們這樣做是有他們隱藏的動(dòng)機(jī)。為了贏得你，他們會(huì)做任何事，但其實(shí)只是為了控制你。操縱者總是想從你身上得到一些東西，如果你回頭看你和他們的關(guān)系，他們一直在索取，索取，索取 ——很少或根本沒有給予過。
Of course, it can be challenging to completely avoid all of these types of people. Heck, I’m sure we’re all guilty of engaging in some of these negative behaviors ourselves, every now and then. Should you ever catch yourself acting like one of these people, stop yourself immediately and change your attitude. It’s also important to keep in mind that not everyone is going to like you or treat you with respect. So stop paying attention to people who don’t deserve it, and focus on those who care about you.
What do you think? Did we miss any other types of toxic people who should be added to this list? Let us know in the comments below!
