英語(yǔ)美文朗讀 第423期 The qualities of a true friend

On social media networks like Facebook, you probably get the impression that some people have hundreds or even thousands of friends. But studies show that people usually maintain a close relationship with only a few people in real life. It takes time and nurturing for real friendships to develop, and there are certain habits and characteristics that genuine friends possess, which makes them more like family. So, here are the qualities of a true friend!

 

在Facebook等社交媒體網(wǎng)絡(luò)上，你可能會(huì)覺(jué)得，很多人有幾百個(gè)甚至幾千個(gè)朋友。但是，研究表明，在生活中，人們只跟少數(shù)幾個(gè)人保持密切聯(lián)系。真正的友誼需要時(shí)間去培養(yǎng)，真正的朋友擁有一些特點(diǎn)和習(xí)慣，這讓他們像我們的家人一樣。那么，讓我們來(lái)看一下真正的朋友有哪些特征吧！

 

Number 1 - They accept you as you are. A true friend won't try to change you. They embrace everything about you, from your flaws to your best personality traits. They may not agree with or like everything that you say or do, but they won't bash you or try to change your personality. They simply accept you as you are!

第一，他們接納最真實(shí)的你。一個(gè)真正的朋友不會(huì)試圖改變你，他們接納你的一切，無(wú)論是你的小缺點(diǎn)，還是你的閃光點(diǎn)。也許，他們并不完全認(rèn)同你的觀點(diǎn)或者你的行為，但是他們不會(huì)打擊你，不會(huì)嘗試改變你的性格。他們接納最真實(shí)的你！

 

Number 2 - They really listen. How many times have you tried to have a conversation with someone, about something that is important to you, and that person keeps turning the topic back to him or herself? You somehow don't find these conversations fulfilling. But, when you have a conversation with a real friend, they aren't one-sided. You find that your friend really listens to you. They don't talk over you, misunderstand what you are saying, or try to hog the attention in the conversation. They open themselves up to listening, really listening, with the intent to understand your thoughts and feelings.

第二，他們樂(lè)于傾聽(tīng)。你肯定遇到過(guò)這種情況，你想和某人說(shuō)一件很重要的事，但是對(duì)方卻不斷地談?wù)撍ㄋ┳约海銜?huì)莫名其妙地感到這種交流沒(méi)什么意思。但是，如果你是在跟真正的朋友交流，他們不會(huì)這樣做。你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，你的朋友非常樂(lè)意傾聽(tīng)你的觀點(diǎn)。他們不會(huì)嘗試說(shuō)服你，不會(huì)誤解你，也不會(huì)把話題引到他們自己身上。他們敞開(kāi)心扉，聆聽(tīng)你的心聲，他們想理解你的想法和感受。

 

Number 3 - They don't gossip. Real friends will never talk bad about you behind your back. They will always confront you personally if they need to talk. They respect you and won't spread rumors and tarnish your reputation behind your back. They would rather talk face-to-face and resolve any issues they may have.

第三，他們不會(huì)說(shuō)閑話。真正的朋友不會(huì)在背后說(shuō)你的壞話，如果他們需要溝通，他們會(huì)親自跟你交流。他們尊重你，不會(huì)到處造謠，不會(huì)在背后詆毀你，他們會(huì)選擇面對(duì)面交流來(lái)解決問(wèn)題。

 

Number 4 - They stick with you. This probably best distinguishes a real friend from a fake one. A true friend will never leave you just because you're going through a rough patch. They will laugh with you through the good times but then cry with you through the bad ones. They will stick by your side and help you through the darkness. They will offer to help however they can. In today's world of flaky, fake friendships, you should genuinely cherish those who are really there for you. These are the people you will want to keep in your life, as they are definitely genuine friends who want the best for you and care about your well-being. They understand that you can't always deal with all of life's curveballs all by yourself, so they have your back, no matter what.

第四，他們一直都在。這可能是真朋友和假朋友的最大區(qū)別，真正的朋友從不會(huì)因?yàn)槟氵^(guò)得不好而離開(kāi)你。你一帆風(fēng)順時(shí)，他們陪你笑。你人生失意時(shí)，他們陪你哭。他們一直陪在你身邊，幫你走出黑暗，他們會(huì)盡最大的努力幫助你。在這個(gè)爾虞我詐的世界里，你真的應(yīng)該珍惜那些一直陪伴著你的人。他們是你要一直留在身邊的人，因?yàn)樗麄兪钦嬲呐笥?，他們想讓你過(guò)得更好，他們?cè)诤跄愕男腋?。他們知道，你不可能總是自己承?dān)人生的風(fēng)雨，所以，無(wú)論如何，他們都會(huì)支持你。

 

Number 5 - They make time for you. Real friends will never blow you off or tell you that they're too busy for you. They don't just talk to you when it's convenient. Yes, they might have to rearrange their schedule a bit, but they will never use lack of time or other commitments as an excuse not to see you. A true friend will usually follow through with their promises to you no matter how busy life gets, and you never feel like you have to chase them in order to keep them in your life.

第五，他們?cè)敢鉃槟懔舫鰰r(shí)間。真正的朋友從來(lái)不會(huì)讓你失望，不會(huì)跟你說(shuō)他們太忙了沒(méi)空理你，不會(huì)在有空的時(shí)候才想起你。確實(shí)，為了見(jiàn)你，他們可能要臨時(shí)改變一下自己的安排，但是他們從不會(huì)用沒(méi)時(shí)間之類的借口來(lái)敷衍你。無(wú)論多忙，真正的朋友都會(huì)說(shuō)到做到，你不用為了留住他們而放低自己的姿態(tài)。

 

Number 6 - They don't hold grudges. A real friend is aware that nobody is perfect. When you're with them, you don't feel like you have to walk on eggshells to gain their approval. They understand that you muck up every now and then, and you don't have to offer a long apology. They just put it behind them, because they know that you have good intentions despite whatever mistakes you make.

第六，他們不會(huì)抱怨。真正的朋友知道，沒(méi)有人是完美的。跟真正的朋友相處，你不需要小心翼翼，唯恐他們對(duì)你產(chǎn)生不滿。他們知道有時(shí)候你可能會(huì)犯點(diǎn)小錯(cuò)誤，但是你不需要忐忑地道歉。這點(diǎn)小事，他們轉(zhuǎn)眼就忘了，因?yàn)樗麄冎?，就算你犯了點(diǎn)錯(cuò)誤，你的本意還是好的。

 

Number 7 - You're comfortable around them. Being completely comfortable is a sign of true friendship. You can act silly and let your guard down and you never have to think twice about doing so. You can tell each other anything and you don't have to censor yourselves. You don't have to fake laugh or force conversations. Everything just seems to flow effortlessly between the two of you. A true friend wants to know your secrets, your wildest dreams, embarrassing stories, and things you wouldn't share with just anyone. They want to know you to your core!

第七，跟他們?cè)谝黄饡r(shí)，你感到很自在。相處自在，是真正的友誼的特征。在他們面前，你可以自由自在地犯傻，放下戒備。你們之間可以訴說(shuō)任何事情，你不會(huì)有所顧忌。你不需要強(qiáng)顏歡笑，不需要說(shuō)違心話，你們的相處非常自然。真正的朋友想知道你的秘密，你最瘋狂的幻想，你的糗事，還有其它你不想跟任何人提及的事情。真正的朋友想充分地了解你！

 

Number 8 - They see the best in you. One of our greatest faults can be our negative self-criticism, but true friends lift us up when we're down. Our closest friends are the ones who beg to differ when our self-opinion starts getting low. When you feel ugly, your friend reminds you of your beauty. When you feel talentless, your friend reminds you of your many skills. A real friend can see the positive things about you, even when you don't see them yourself.

第八，他們看得到你的閃光點(diǎn)。我們對(duì)自己太挑剔，這也許是我們最大的缺點(diǎn)。但是，真正的朋友，在我們失意時(shí)伸出援手。最親近的朋友，能夠在我們不自信時(shí)給我們勇氣。當(dāng)你覺(jué)得自己不好看時(shí)，但真正的朋友會(huì)告訴你，你很美。當(dāng)你覺(jué)得自己一無(wú)是處時(shí)，但真正的朋友會(huì)告訴你，你很能干。也許你看不到自己的閃光點(diǎn)，但真正的朋友能看到。

 

Number 9 - They tell it like it is. They don't tell you what you want to hear. Not just for arguments sake, but they will tell you when you are actually wrong. They tell you the truth, even if it may hurt, not because they want to make you feel bad, but rather to help you make better choices in your life and become a better person. You've learned to appreciate this because not many people in life will tell it like it is.

第九，他們很坦誠(chéng)。真正的朋友不會(huì)單純地說(shuō)那些你樂(lè)意聽(tīng)的話。在你犯錯(cuò)誤時(shí)，他們會(huì)告訴你，這并不是故意要跟你吵架。就算他們知道你可能會(huì)手上，他們也會(huì)告訴你真相，這并不是為了讓你感到難過(guò)，而是想幫你做出更好的選擇，幫你成為更好的人。你要珍惜這樣的朋友，因?yàn)椴⒉皇敲總€(gè)人都會(huì)跟你講真話。

 

Number 10 - They don't get jealous. A real friend is confident in the bond that you share, and they will never try to control you. They understand that you don't have to be in their company around the clock in order to validate the friendship, and they give you the freedom to pursue other friendships and activities in your life. Few people will genuinely be happy for your success. In fact, most people around you will be jealous or envious. But true friends will actually be happy for you and push you to achieve even greater heights.

第十，他們不會(huì)嫉妒。真正的朋友對(duì)你們的友誼有信心，他們不會(huì)想控制你。他們不需要你每時(shí)每刻陪在他們身邊來(lái)證明這份友誼，他們給你充分的自由，你可以跟其他人交朋友，你可以參加其他的活動(dòng)。你成功的時(shí)候，很少人會(huì)由衷地感到開(kāi)心，事實(shí)上，你身邊的大多數(shù)人會(huì)感到嫉妒。但是，真正的朋友會(huì)為你感到開(kāi)心，并且鼓勵(lì)你去追求更高的理想。