英語美文朗讀 第386期 Be hnest with yourself

The biggest confusion in America in 2019 is that money is happiness. But I know what's gonna happen is I'm gonna post on YouTube and I'm gonna read the comments. They'll be like, yo, easy for him to say, I'm rich, but I'll cry in my Ferrari. Until you're crying in your Ferrari.

 

在2019年的美國，最令人感到困惑的觀念，就是，錢等于快樂。要是我在油管上說這些，就會有人評論說，呵呵，他說得倒輕巧，說什么即使我很有錢，即使我擁有法拉利，我也會傷心。等到你有了法拉利再說吧。

 

And when you have money and you're sad as fu*k, real bad sh*t happens. 'cause that sh*t goes from Cognac and weed to cocaine and guns in your fu*king mouth. My friends, it is time, once and for all, to fu*king cut the bullsh*t. We need to start talking about happiness. My friends, until our society, and this country especially, redefines success in being happy, not being rich, everybody will continue to go down the path that we're seeing in our society of depression, anxiety, drugs.

等到你真正有錢了，你也會很難過，會遇到很多糟糕的事情，因為你會喝名酒，抽大麻，吸毒。朋友們，是時候停止這一切了，我們需要認真談?wù)勈裁词强鞓?。朋友們，如果全社會，尤其是美國社會，再不重新定義成功和快樂，不在快樂和有錢之間劃等號，那么我們現(xiàn)在面臨的問題，比如抑郁，焦慮，毒品，它們還會繼續(xù)存在。

 

You have to be honest with yourself, 'cause if you're incapable of that, you have no prayer of happiness. And being honest with yourself is hard. My friends, we are so good at casting judgement on everybody else. We're unstoppable at that. Keyboard warriors on Twitter? We're not doing that to ourselves. More importantly, how do you start chipping away in a world where you were parented, or your environment made you that way?

你必須對自己坦誠一點，因為如果你做不到這樣，你就別指望快樂了。對自己坦誠，確實很難做到。朋友們，我們總是不停地評判別人，我們在網(wǎng)上當鍵盤俠，評論別人，但是我們卻不評判自己。更重要的是，你在這個環(huán)境里長大，環(huán)境塑造了你，你怎樣才能擺脫這一切的影響？

 

There are people right now that are living their life, still in their 40s and 50s, based on the opinion of their parents. They think they're doing the right thing‘cause they're fucking actually love their parents. I get it. I love my parents so uncomfortably much. It scares me. But they live it because they're appeasing lawyer, two kids, living in this area, doing this job, don't take risks 'cause we told you not to. We came from a generation that didn't, so you're doing that.

有些人，已經(jīng)四五十歲了，還在照父母的意愿生活。他們覺得這樣做沒問題，因為他們很愛父母。我理解這種想法，我也很愛我的父母，愛到極致。但那些人這樣活著，是因為他們是律師，有兩個孩子，有房子，有工作，不敢冒險，因為父母告訴他們不要冒險。父母說，我們在你這個年紀時也沒冒險，所以你這樣做沒錯。

 

Or I was once an entrepreneur and fucked it up, and so we were scared, so now you don't do that. They live for their parents. They think it's good 'cause everything's good 'cause you're doing what your parents want. You feel like it's good. And then, life keeps going. Then what starts happening is they start to resent their parents, because now they're popping to their 50th birthday, their 60th birthday, their 65th birthday. They get a health scare and they're like, I'm not doing what I wanna be doing.

或者，父母會告訴他們，以前我也試過創(chuàng)業(yè)，但是失敗了，所以我們很害怕失敗，所以你也不要冒險創(chuàng)業(yè)。他們?yōu)樽约旱母改付?，他們認為這樣挺好的，因為一切都是父母想要的樣子。你覺得這樣挺好的，生活就這樣繼續(xù)下去。但是，后來，這些人卻開始恨自己的父母，因為他們自己已經(jīng)五六十歲了，身體不再硬朗，這個時候才發(fā)現(xiàn)，自己做的事情，并不是自己想要的。

 

People here are in debt, or can't do something because they're just staying above ground, but that's because they bought a house that was too expensive, not using rooms, in that house, and they don't have the humility, to sell that house and go back to rent, because they don't want their friend from high school, or their grandma, to judge them, because we manifested that you have to own a home. And if you did, and now you're not just staying above water, and you sold that home, and moved into a shittier neighborhood, or a smaller house, or rented, now your actual life can open up but no. The ideology of owning a home, and the inability to take a step backwards to take 3 steps forward, is gonna make you unhappy till the end.

人們背著一身債，做不成什么事，因為他們做事求穩(wěn)，但這又是因為他們買的房子太貴了，房子太大，空間太多，用不完，他們不夠謙卑，做不到把房子賣掉，重新開始租房，因為他們不想被自己的奶奶或高中同學(xué)議論，因為別人告訴他們，必須要有房。如果你有房，你就穩(wěn)定了，但你后來又買了房，搬到差一點的地區(qū)，或者住進小一點的房子，或者租房，那么你的生活就會真正重新開始。然而，你做不到。要有房，不要想著冒險，不要想著以小博大，這種觀念，讓你這輩子都無法開心起來。

 

I'm watching real deep sadness and it's not because of social media. Social media is not making you sad. Your insecurity is making you sad. There's no hack. There's no passive income. There's no system. You wanna build something? It's hard work and talent. Every person in here that's not 100% happy, including myself, is not doing something because of judgment of somebody else. 100%. You wanna fucking win in life? Fall in love with losing because most people here are scared of it.

我看到很多人非常難過，這不是社交媒體惹的禍。讓你難過的，不是社交媒體，而是你的不安。一蹴而就，不勞而獲，穩(wěn)定的體制，這些都是不存在的。你想有所成就？只能靠努力和天賦。在場的人中，那些并非完全快樂的人，包括我自己，都是因為害怕別人議論而不敢做自己想做的事。你想成為人生贏家嗎？愛上失敗吧，因為在場的很多人都害怕失敗。

 

The number one unlock to happiness in this room, is to go out there after this talk, and get naked about your vulnerabilities, what you suck at, take a step back, go humble. This is about losing and humility at the forefront, and nobody's talking about it. Every single other person talking is talking about fake it till you make it, winning at all costs, look the part before you are. Everybody here's trying to change the world. Change yourself first. So stop making judgement on the past, and start being practical on what you can do, instead of dwelling on what you can't do.

快樂的唯一秘訣，就是在這場講座之后，走出去，勇敢面對自己的弱點，往后退一步，學(xué)會謙虛。這和面對失敗有關(guān)，和學(xué)會謙虛有關(guān)，但是沒人重視這個道理。所有人談?wù)摰?，都是如何掩飾自己，如何不惜一切代價獲勝，如何高瞻遠矚。所有人都想改變世界，但是先改變你自己吧。所以，不要根據(jù)過去的事情來下結(jié)論，開始變得實際一點，做自己能做到的事，而不是糾結(jié)自己做不到的事。