美國文化脫口秀 第364期:中美戀愛順序是相反的?

最近好多聽眾讓我們聊聊霉霉抖森。“美國人戀愛翻篇那么快嗎?”、“美國人戀愛見家長也那么快嗎?”......今天，我們就說說這個話題吧!

關(guān)鍵詞：

the “it” couple: 最火情侶

"It" can be used to describe what's current and trendy: "It"這個詞可以用來形容很火爆的人事物

例如 ：

The It girl: 很火的女明星

The It bag: 爆款包包

Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston are the “it” couple right now: 霉霉抖森的戀情可謂是全球矚目

Today, we're going to talk about the sequences of dating in American culture, e.g. when it's appropriate to meet the parents and things of that nature: 今天我們要聊聊戀愛的順序，比如何時見父母，諸如此類的問題

Dating vs. Relationship: 戀愛的不同階段

美國人談戀愛，層次分明。有好感就是有好感，約會就是約會，戀愛就是戀愛。而“I love you”對美國人來說是一個慎重的承諾，不會輕易說出口。

What's the difference between dating and being in a relationship? : 約會和談戀愛有什么區(qū)別?

Dating is one of the early stages of a relationship: 約會(dating)是談戀愛的早期階段

Being in a relationship means a full-on relationship: 而戀愛(being in a relationship)則是關(guān)系已經(jīng)確定下來了

隨著關(guān)系不斷發(fā)展，你可以說:

We're going out: 我們看對眼 (表示雙方都有好感)

We're seeing each other: 我們開始出去約會

We're dating: 我們在約會

I'm in a relationship with someone: 我們現(xiàn)在是正式戀愛關(guān)系

We're exclusive: 我們是專一的關(guān)系，不能約會其他人

Meet the parents: 美國人覺得見父母是大事嗎?

雖然才約會一兩個月，但是抖森已經(jīng)帶霉霉見媽媽了。見父母對美國人來說也是戀愛的一大里程碑嗎?是否也意味著談婚論嫁?

The word “relationship” implies a degree of seriousness and commitment:"Relationship"在英語里意味著一種認(rèn)真的態(tài)度和承諾

They're dating with the intent of marriage: 是以結(jié)婚為目的在談戀愛

The day after they announced they were dating, Taylor Swift was snapped by paparazzi as she visited Tom Hiddleston's mom: 剛宣布兩人在拍拖，第二天狗仔隊就拍到抖森帶霉霉見他媽

Is meeting each other's parents a big deal in America?: 在美國見父母算戀愛過程中的大事嗎?

It's not as big of a deal as it is in China: 跟中國比起來，美國人沒有把談戀愛見父母看的這么重

They can meet their dates' parents in a more casual way: 美國人戀愛見父母可以是比較輕松的一件事

It means you're relatively serious, but it doesn't necessarily imply marriage: 當(dāng)然，見父母也證明了兩人關(guān)系比較認(rèn)真，但不一定代表以婚姻為目的

中美戀愛順序是相反的?

美國人戀愛何時見父母?

在美國，談戀愛見父母并沒有在中國那么慎重，可能在約會初期來家里接人就恰巧碰到了。但不管怎么說，見了父母的總是比沒見父母的更進(jìn)了一步。

At what stage in a relationship would people meet each other's parents?: 談到哪個階段才會見父母?

In an exclusive relationship: 兩人各為唯一的約會對象

Many Americans believe, at early stages of dating, it's okay to date a few people: 很多美國人覺得約會一開始可以跟幾個人同時進(jìn)行

It depends on the person:因人而異

Let's say you just happen to be at your parents' house and the person you're dating comes and picks you up there: 一種情況是你在你爸媽家，剛好你的男/女朋友來接你

Generally speaking, in America, if you parents meet the person you're dating, it shows there's a heightened level of interest: 美國人如果帶去見父母，多少是表示戀情已經(jīng)發(fā)展到一定階段了

However, it doesn't mean you're definitely thinking about getting married: 但不一定表示是奔結(jié)婚去的

Moving on: 美國人的翻篇速度

眾說周知，霉霉的戀愛史已經(jīng)夠出書了。不僅夠量，速度也是飛快。剛跟前任分手，火速就跟抖森談戀愛了。其實(shí)，美國人對于這樣的翻篇速度也頗有微詞。

She's had a lot of high-profile relationships: 她談戀愛滿高調(diào)的

She's a high-profile person: 她本身就是名人

A player: 花心的人

In America, if a girl is going from boyfriend to boyfriend, she won't be welcomed by guys: 在美國，如果一個女生男朋友一個接著一個，那她在男生心里形象肯定不好

The stigma still exists: 對于翻篇速度，還是有偏見的

Whether it's a guy or a girl, people who go from relationship to relationship are generally not very stable: 不管男女，戀情一段接一段，估計這個人不太靠得住

single phase/time between relationships: 空窗期

Maybe you just don't like being by yourself: 可能你不喜歡一個人

Jennifer Lopez once said, “I'm not good at being alone”: Jennifer Lopez曾說過，“我不太擅長一個人過”

It's definitely nice to have someone to share your life with: 有人陪伴當(dāng)然是好事

Some people are just needy/clingy: 有些人很粘人，一直要人陪

You don't really look at the relationship you're in as that serious: 你對現(xiàn)在的感情不太重視

Easily end one relationship and start another one: 揮手告別上一段戀情，就大步走向下一個人的懷抱

Not getting married: 不婚族

歐洲許多國家，很多人共同生活很久、有孩子，卻維持不婚狀態(tài)。但美國的結(jié)婚率比歐洲還是高很多。美國人普遍還是比較重視婚姻的。

civil partnership: 民事伴侶關(guān)系，只缺一紙婚書

de facto marriage: 事實(shí)婚姻，同上

I don't want to get married: 我是個不婚族

Americans, for the most part, still regard marriage as an important institution: 大多美國人依然很看重婚姻這一傳統(tǒng)

I've realized how conservative I am in some regards: 我發(fā)現(xiàn)某些方便我還是蠻保守的

I'm not super traditional or conservative, especially compared to a lot of Chinese people: 跟大多數(shù)中國人比，我不算太傳統(tǒng)、太保守

But when compared to certain Europeans I've encountered, I realized that I'm a little more conservative: 但跟我認(rèn)識的一些歐洲人比，我還是比較保守的

I think of marriage as a big formality: 我覺得婚姻是一個重要的規(guī)矩

What I mean by formality is that it's just something that you do: 我說婚姻像一個”規(guī)矩”，意思是說你就得這么做

I could see myself getting married one day: 我想以后我還是會結(jié)婚的

A lot of people get married for tax and legal purposes: 很多人結(jié)婚就是為了稅務(wù)、法律方面的優(yōu)惠

If two people have lived together for ten years, they might as well make it marriage and get some money back: 如果兩人都已經(jīng)同居10年了，不如就結(jié)婚算了，還能拿點(diǎn)錢

Let's end the show on a more romantic note: 我們說點(diǎn)浪漫的事來結(jié)束今天的節(jié)目

I totally believe in love, even love at first sight: 我當(dāng)然相信愛情，我還相信一見鐘情