Say “I Love You” 我愛你
越是對自己的親人,我們似乎對他們的要求越高一些,我們總希望他們是完美的,他們應(yīng)當(dāng)是最理解我們的。而越是面對我們自己的親人,我們越是不知道該如何表達(dá)自己的感情。其實,親人同樣渴望著你對他們說"我愛你"!
In a class I teach for adults, I gave the class homework! The assignment was to go to someone you love and tell them you love them.
It doesn't sound like a very tough assignment, until you realize that most of the men were over 35 and were raised in the generation of men that were taught that expressing emotions is not "macho".
At the beginning of our next class, I asked if someone wanted to share his experience. A man raised his hand. He appeared quite moved and a bit shaken.
He began, "Dennis, I was quite angry with you last week when you gave us this assignment. I didn't feel that I had anyone to say those words to. But as I was driving home my conscience started talking to me. It was telling me that I knew exactly who I needed to say 'I love you' to. You see, five years ago, my father and I had a serious disagreement and never resolved it since that time. We avoided seeing each other unless we had to be at Christmas or other family gatherings. So last Tuesday by the time I got home I had convinced myself I was going to tell my father I loved him."
"It's weird, but just making that decision seemed to lift a heavy load off my chest."
"The next day at 5.30p.m., I was at my parents' house ringing the doorbell. It was Dad who answered the door."
"I didn't waste any time — I took one step in the door and said, 'Dad, I just came over to tell you that I love you.'"
"It was as if a transformation came over my dad. Before my eyes his face softened, the wrinkles seemed to disappear and he began to cry. He reached and hugged me and said, 'I love you too, son, but I've never been able to say it.'"
"It was such a precious moment."
"But that's not even my point. Two days after that visit, my dad, who had a heart attack and ended up in hospital, unconscious. I don't know if he'll make it."
"So my message to all of you in this class is this: Don't wait to do the things you know need to be done. What if I had waited to tell my dad — maybe I will never get the chance again! Take the time to do what you need to do and do it now!"
精美譯文:
我給成人班的學(xué)生布置了家庭作業(yè)!作業(yè)的內(nèi)容就是對你愛的人說一聲“我愛你”。
如果你意識到他們大多年紀(jì)在35歲以上,而且他們這一代人從小就認(rèn)為表達(dá)自己的感情是不夠“男子漢”的行為,你就會明白這個作業(yè)并不那么容易。
第二次上課的時候,我問是否有人愿意和大家分享他的經(jīng)歷。一位男同學(xué)舉起了手,他顯得十分激動,而且有一些顫抖。
他開始講他的經(jīng)歷:“丹尼斯,你上周給我們布置這個作業(yè)的時候,我很生氣。我不覺得我需要和誰說這幾個字。但是,當(dāng)我開車回家的時候,我的良心和我進(jìn)行了對話。良心確切地告訴我我需要和誰說‘我愛你’。五年前,我和我的父親有過一次嚴(yán)重的意見不合,而且一直沒有解決。除了圣誕和其他的家庭聚會以外,我們盡量避免見面。所以,上周二當(dāng)我到家的時候,我說服我自己我應(yīng)該告訴我的父親我愛他?”
“雖然有點兒奇怪,但是當(dāng)我做了這個決定的時候,好像是搬走了壓在我心頭的石頭?!?br />
“第二天下午5:30的時候,我按響了父母家的門鈴。是爸爸開的門?!?br />
“我沒有浪費任何時間,向前邁了一步,對他說:‘爸爸,我來只想告訴你我愛你?!?br />
“爸爸好像換了一個人似的。他的臉變得柔和,臉上的皺紋也似乎消失了。爸爸哭了。他走上前抱住我說:‘兒子,我也愛你,但是我一直沒有說出口?!?br />
“那一刻真的很珍貴?!?br />
“但是我并不是想表達(dá)這個觀點。兩天之后,父親因為心臟病突發(fā)住進(jìn)了醫(yī)院,昏迷不醒。我不知道他能否度過這一關(guān)?!?br />
“我的意思是想告訴班里所有的同學(xué):不要等到你必須要做的時候才去做。如果我沒有對父親說我可能永遠(yuǎn)都不會再有機會了!抓緊時間去做你要做的事情吧,現(xiàn)在就做!”
注釋:
1. assignment n. 分配,任務(wù),(課外)作業(yè)
2. macho adj. 男子的,男子氣的
3. conscience n. 良心,道德心
4. resolve v. 解決
5. convince v. 使確信,使信服
6. weird adj. 怪異的,不可思議的
7. hug n. 擁抱
8. transformation n. 變化,轉(zhuǎn)變
9. end up 結(jié)果…
10. unconscious adj. 不省人事的,無意識的
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